25 Grossly Disappointing Things People Learned About A Friend

We are willing to excuse some gross behaviours from our friends as being part of the human experience. Being in proximity to someone means that at some point you may be exposed to another’s hygiene issues, accidental passing of foul-smelling gases or unsavoury emissions of bodily fluids. These are just the tip of the iceberg in an ocean of challenges that friend-ships have to navigate. However, what constitutes a Titanic level of damage in a friendship that makes people want to jump overboard?

#1

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Me (m) and another male friend once tried some gay things. I didn’t really like it, but apparently he did. Every once and then he would ask me to do some of those things again, and I always refused. The last time he tried to convince me with money, and I refused, and while talking his tongue slipped and I found out he asked me for pleasure every time his “girlfriends” broke up with him.

#2

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She didn’t shower for 3 days on our trip. It was really hot and humid so we were all sweaty by the end of each day. Then she used disgustingly strong perfume on her scalp to mask the smell.

#3

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She falsely accused men. As a survivor myself- that’s a huge no and I think punishable because so many real survivors go through hell to receive justice and women like her are sick.

#4

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A friend(37m) and I(38f) were discussing politics. I already knew we had very differing opinions on alot of things, but it had always been respectful engagement and we were always willing to consider each other’s perspective and reasoning behind our stances.

At some point the convo switched to women who falsely accuse men of r**e. He felt like women ask for it if they dress a certain type of way. I tried to use myself as an example (as we were very close friends, I thought). Tried to say “if I told u this happened to me, what would be your initial reaction?” Unmoved. Just kind of blankly stared at me.

He has 2 young daughters. Tried to use them as an example. “So if your daughter came to you and said she was r***d, the first thing you would ask her is what she was wearing?”

His exact words “I would also ask her where she was and what she was doing. Bc if your are in a certain type of environment, dressed a certain way, and behaving in a certain manner, then she was asking for it”

His reasoning was bc men are primal creatures who have needs that they can’t control so women shouldn’t be tempting them

I refused to continue a friendship after that.

#5

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My best friend was poisoning her child to the point she had 44 hospital admissions and ICU stays in the one year prior to her being caught. (Not to mention all of the ones prior to that) She’s had zero admissions in the 12yrs since she has been out of her mother’s care.

#6

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She had hiv and was sleeping around with random men. She didn’t tell them. She said if they took off the c****m and got it it was their own fault.

Edit: all yall defending her are wrong in the head. Sneaking a c****m off during s*x and not disclosing to your partner that you have a potentially terminal std are both awful and not mutually exclusive. The potential of one does not excuse the other. Condoms break and accidents happen. Not disclosing her disease removes any partners ability to decide on accepting the risk for themselves.

Shame on you if you justify this. Big yikes.

#7

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He shared videos of rats being tortured, thinking they were funny.

He was immediately unfriended that day.

#8

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They randomly let drop that they cleaned their dishes and bathroom with the same f*****g sponge.

#9

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He punched his girlfriend. As soon as I found out, I dropped that f****r like a hot plate.

#10

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Not a friend but I knew a girl in high school who got into a car accident by running a red light because she was on her phone.
The man who was in the other car died. He was 91 years old and had been a fire chief for over 30 years, retiring only 7 years before. People were devastated.

I remember talk of how ‘daddy was going to get her out of it’, gossip, but she left for a few months and came back like nothing ever happened.
They ruled his death an accident.

But I will never forget. She was a ‘preppy’ girl a few years older than me, and I was ’emo’ so I don’t even thing she noticed that I was there.

She was talking to two of her friends and she said, and I quote, ” He was old, he was going to die anyway.”

I will never ever forget this encounter with evil.

I was 15 and I am now 30 and I have never heard anything so disgusting come out of someone’s mouth in real life.

#11

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How filthy they were. A group of us gals went to our friend’s apartment, they opened the door and a sour smell slapped my nostrils. I asked what it was, and they responded “idk probably the fridge” what? Turns out their refrigerator was filled with moldy food and stale food. The bathroom was a crime scene. A trash can filled to the brim with used feminine products, mildew covered shower. Toilet was a biohazard. And the bedroom/living room (friend has a studio) had scattered coke bottles everywhere and a giant hole in the mattress with even more coke bottles inside. I was uncomfortable, grossed out and concerned. I took them aside and asked if they were ok, what’s going on. I got a “f**k off it’s my place, I can do what I want” I never went back and the friendship fizzled out.

#12

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He cheated on his girlfriend, gave her chlamydia & slipped the medication in her food so she didn’t find out.

#13

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My friend started dating someone who openly bragged about having s*x with animals.

I told him I couldn’t be around him and he called me a bigot for not accepting his lifestyle.

Pretty sure he was f*****g dogs too.

#14

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I made a friend at work and we talked almost every day, one of the few people I would b******t with.

Then one day he casually just started talking about how his wife was thinking he would be at work on certain days, when really hed be out hooking up with some random girl.

Ew. We’re not friends anymore.

#15

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He was arrested for putting hidden cameras in the ladies toilets and changing rooms in the pub that he owned.

He was a bit odd but I never thought he would do something as insane and gross as that.

#16

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She saved her popped pimples in a scrapbook.

#17

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She hit her dog violently as a discipline method.

#18

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She admitted she wears as close to white at Weddings as feels the need to outshine the bride.

#19

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She was sleeping with my boyfriend. They have a child together now but he cheated on her with her aunt lol.

#20

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He used to spit on the floor in his room, in the same place.

He had carpet too.

#21

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He completely fabricated his life. We’d known each other since high school, but after we stopped going to school and working at the same place, we didn’t see each other often and our friendship was largely virtual.

His life took a horrible turn. Cancer in the family, having to care for his nieces and quit his job to do so, but then deciding to go back to school to better himself. Got a degree, started a new, really awesome job. Got a girlfriend… even sent me pictures of her. Went on trips to see her (long distance).

I started getting suspicious. I did some investigating of my own and discovered that everything was fake. But we had plans to go to a concert festival the weekend I found everything out. I was young and dumb, and even though everything in me was screaming not to go, I did. He drove. He talked to me about how him and his girlfriend had broken up. He took a selfie of us and made it his profile pic to “make her jealous”. He pretended his tooth got knocked out “saving me” from a crowd surfer.

By the time we got in the car to go home, I was scared. I was getting a really concerning vibe. He wasn’t starting the car and we had a 2 hour drive home. Then he just started breaking down, stared at me and said “promise me you’ll never leave me.” My heart was beating so fast and I was sweating. I told him of course I wouldn’t leave him, because I was afraid to say anything else. He drove us home crying and going 30-40mph over the speed limit. I thought I was going to die.

He dropped me off that night and I blocked him on everything. I’ve never spoken to him again. I still get freaked out thinking about it, but I also feel guilty because he clearly needed help. But, I’d spent a lot of years of my life trying to help him and support him through struggles, and that night my gut told me that he’d made an elaborate, fake life to try to earn my admiration and romantic feelings. The whole situation makes me feel sick, but sad.

#22

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A few years back a (at the time close) friend of mine started posting all over social media about how her brother had gotten arrested and how she was praying for him to get out and he didn’t deserve it blah blah, made it seem like he got arrested for something really minor.

When I googled his full name, it turned out he and 3 of his friends committed a violent hate crime.

#23

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She had a fake Instagram where she pretended to have cancer. Didn’t know if she was trying to scam people or just wanted attention.

#24

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A friend of mine, who has been my first boyfriend and then one of my best friends during adolescence, just decided to say to everyone around my city, including high school people, that i was selling my body for d***s. at 15 yo. for weed. in a small city where this type of dramas can get you into serious troubles.

he wasn’t my friend anymore when i discovered this (like almost a year ago, now im 24) so i was not shocked but like “cmon bro, did you really sunk so low?”. i haven’t any type of respect for him anymore.

#25

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My friend would take out her daily wear contacts every single night and throw them on the floor in the same corner of her room next to her nightstand. The mountain of contacts genuinely shocked me to my core. Another friend never took them out. Like… kept her contacts in 24/7.