25 Things A Partner Did That Made People Dump Them Instantly

We live in an era of data, and our brains have become wired to consistently analyse the available information before making sound decisions. Decisions that may be hard to act on, but are necessary nevertheless to ensure peace of mind. Even when that choice is an insistent demand that you walk away from a problematic partner during the courting period. Someone online recently asked, ”What did your partner do that made you leave them instantly?” Redditors responded with their personal experiences, and we’ve shared a few popular favourites in the gallery below. 

#1

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Our marriage counselor, a psychiatrist who saw us both together and separately, told me privately that I needed to leave him or I was going to die. That was eye opening.

#2

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Started going full MAGA around 2019-2020, obsessed over cop body cam videos were victims were black people, anonymous smurf account that posted the most racist s**t I have ever seen it was scary. never missed redpill podcasts and was obsessed with conspiracy theories. I didn’t want to be affiliated if they went on a rampage because that was the trajectory they were heading.

#3

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My grandfather offered to buy her lunch while we were out with my family at the local Scottish Games and she flipped out on him. He was stunned, said nevermind and walked away. I was baffled that anyone would treat my grandfather in such a way. When we were in the car on the way home, she started saying he was hitting on her. She was 21 at the time. My grandfather just wanted to get to know her. I broke up with her on the way home and told her that my family was more important to me than she was. The next day, I called my grandfather to apologize and all he said was “you’re grown up and can make your own decisions, but I don’t think she’s right for you.”

I agree Grandpa, I totally agree.

#4

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Fed my hamster to his friend snake.

#5

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I wanted to send myself a copy of a pic he had taken, so he gave me his phone to find it.

Previous to this moment, I knew he had a foot f****h and I found a few covert pics of my own feet. I didnt actually care that much until I found sneaky pics of MY MOTHER’S FEET.

Relationship over.

#6

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Kicked my dog. .

#7

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She found the keys i hid when she was very drunk. I told her I wouldn’t let her leave drunk and that I would sleep on the couch if needed, etc. (We lived together for over a year at this point). She got in the car parked in our garage, and I stood right behind it, pleading with her not to drive. She threw it in reverse and would have run me over if I didn’t jump up on the trunk and then roll out of the way. That was that. Don’t need that in my life.

#8

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My toddler was crying because he wanted his mom (me) and not his dad (my ex husband). My ex husband started spanking the hell out of my toddler for that reason. We were in the middle of a fight and he took his anger at me out on a baby. He had been a*****e to me in the past but that was the last d**n straw. You don’t touch my child. I was at the police station the next morning. All this to say I know the detrimental psychological effects of hearing your parents fight are also so, so damaging. I regret not leaving sooner but at least I left and my kids and I are safe and happy now.

#9

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Was mean to my grandmother. Not to her face, but she spoke badly and disrespected her in front of me. I lived at my grandmother because my mother was incapable of raising me, so that was a dealbreaker. We were together for almost 4 years, but if you disrespect this woman, you will be removed from my life instantly.

#10

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She screamed at her daughters in public for the most trivial things. Got loud with her parents and wait staff for little to no reason. I dropped her off after a date and told her this is not, what I’m looking for and wished her luck. Blocked her on everything and moved right the hell on.

#11

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Put my cat in danger. Left from Utah to Florida THE NEXT MORNING. Love my cat more than the world.

#12

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After a lot of shots, he told me he really hates listening to black people talk, then proceeded to make fun of what he “hears when they yap” . For reference, I was his first black girlfriend, lol.

#13

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Right after my mom died he told me that I needed to rely on my family for emotional support and not him and that my emotions made him want to chug vodka.

#14

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I walked in on him performing fellatio, on my cousin! I’m a woman, I’m straight, thought he was too! Edit – for clarity, it was a heterosexual marriage.

#15

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An ex cheated on me while I was going through heart surgery. I dumped him instantly. A lesson I needed to learn and I learnt it well lol.

#16

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It was 7am on NYE. We were in the airport to fly out and go party. He was still drunk from the night before, stomping behind me like a big baby, hollering at me “you know I hate morning flights! Why TF would you book such an early flight!!” And the the kiss of death when he hissed “you’re so stupid.”

I stopped, and turned to look at him. My inner voice asked “wtf are you doing with this mess of a dude?” I walked out of the airport and left him there.

#17

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Sucker punched me in the head after I told her she couldn’t tell me who I could be friends with.

The next morning she made it clear I made the right decision by pretending she had a car accident and was in the hospital.

Edit: Forgot to add the following evening I was going out for drinks with coworkers celebrating a promotion. She tried to crash it with a few friends dressed up like they were a bachelorette party. Thankfully she arrived before us, I walked in saw her and walked right back out again and texted everyone a new location.

#18

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He wished death upon the “old hags who live next door, ruining his life” because someone had asked the building supervisor to go talk to him about the noise. He was having a house party with loud music blasting through open windows at 11:30 p.m. on a Tuesday.

#19

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Got upset that he and his kids weren’t in my will…I was a single mother and We’d been dating for three months.

#20

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He had told me he was single, then he said separated from his ex wife. Turns out he wasn’t, I was stupidly obsessed with this guy. So I gave him some time to fix “his situation” after weeks he said she was out of the picture, obviously she wasn’t. One night I was about to make us dinner and she started calling and texting him so I asked what did she want? He said “I don’t know, but don’t worry I’ll tell her I’ll go to bed so she leaves us alone” he then went to take a shower. While he was showering I got myself an uber, left and never saw him again. Ohh and I called the so called ex wife to let her know. Surprise! She obviously didn’t know about me either… so yeah, not sure how he fixed that.

#21

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He invited himself to everything I did with my friends (I bought a concert ticket, he would buy it too w/o being invited). I hated that he didn’t have a life outside of me.

#22

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Hooked up with my dad.

#23

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Almost cost me my job by showing up there jealous of my boss causing a scene. Mortifying and the last straw.

#24

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He was unemployed at Christmas Time, so I bought his family members gifts.
The entire time I was at his family gathering, he was texting with random people and random girls. I was the only one actually engaging with them.
Christmas also happens to be my birthday, and I had kept a box-cake in the cupboard for months.

Not once did he consider making the cake for my birthday (at no cost to him – I made sure everything was available) or even hand write a s****y-card.

We got home from his parents place, I told him to pack his s**t and get out.
I called his mom and said “Oh, I’m so sorry. He’s going to have to come back. He forgot his manners.” (He had nowhere else to live). She apologized to me, and was not at all surprised.

Good riddance, don’t let society let you be mistreated!

#25

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Screamed at me for entering the car while she was having a private conversation with our friend (I had no clue, I was just walking back from ordering takeout at a restaurant).