35 Harsh Truths Men Don’t Feel Comfortable Sharing With Women

It's better to be aware, than to live in ignorance. Even if it's something you don't like hearing, what would be the point of avoiding it? It doesn't change the reality of the truth. So if we want to understand something better, we need to have more knowledge. Even if that subject can be somewhat sensitive. As such, we'd like to draw your attention to a fresh topic that's been garnering a lot of eye-opening responses online. When a Redditor asked, "If all men had to be brutally honest for 24 hours, what would women be shocked to learn?" men opened up with candid answers that may cause some type of reaction from the oppositte gender.

#1

Image source: nazerall, bahareh moradian/unsplash Lip injections are f*****g stupid and ugly.

#2

Image source: Imissyourgirlfriend2, Getty Images/unsplash We hate it when you mess with your face. If you're 25, it's ok to look 25. If you're 37, it's ok to look 37. If you're 52, it's ok to look 52. It's ok to look your age. Please stop with the crazy surgeries on your face; you are beautiful already.

#3

Well, my wife would be pretty surprised to find out just how attractive I still find her. She's still smokin' but won't take my word for it. Image source: wonton_burrito_field

#4

That most men feel deeply lonely, touch-starved, and emotionally ignored, but we’ve learned to hide it because no one really asks how we’re doing. Image source: Qmaxtl

#5

Image source: SgtObliviousHere, Getty Images/unsplash We often stay quiet about emotional pain because, far too often, it is turned into a weapon against us.

#6

Image source: BigD1970, Keisha Riley Lemons/unsplash How many of us are actually not OK.

#7

Image source: Lampietheclown, Getty Images/unsplash Those long fake eyelashes? They are not s**y. No guy has ever thought, “she’d be hot if she had ridiculously stupidly long eyelashes”.

#8

Have you gained some weight? Yeah. Are you fat? Yeah, a bit. Do I care? No. Are you still the most beautiful women on the face of the Earth to me? YES. Image source: TimurShlagur

#9

Image source: lenaphobic, Jeremy Perkins/unsplash How under appreciated a lot of fathers feel today. When my wife is spoiled by the entire family on mother’s day. When I dedicate an expensive, lavish date for her and my daughter makes gifts and a card for her. Yet here I sit, alone at 12pm on yet another father’s day and haven’t even heard a word from either of them nor my mother who wanted to keep my daughter this weekend knowing it was father’s day weekend. I know I can’t say anything about it, because I don’t want an argument and any appreciation afterwards wouldn’t be genuine. Being a father feels like a thankless and completely expected job despite how many deadbeats there are.

#10

Image source: kkoch_16, Getty Images/unsplash Three things I've noticed pop up in not just my relationship, but the relationship of pretty much all the men I know. 1. We aren't mind readers. Please just say what you want. 2. Most men are happy to do whatever project you want (assuming it's within financial reason), but please don't micro-manage while we work. 3. Think to yourself if you actually would like our opinion before you ask for it.

#11

Image source: LeopardMedium, A. C./unsplash I want to be loved for who I am, not for what I can provide.

#12

“My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world” is not an exclusively-appearance-focused compliment. Still the truth… “beautiful” just encapsulates a lot more than looks. Image source: dbixon

#13

Women, and other men I suppose, would be shocked to learn just how many men are a struggling mentally. I imagine the number of men struggling is higher than we can imagine. Image source: SilentBlackout_

#14

Many guys frequently create elaborate scenarios in their heads where they are the hero. Image source: EntreChienEtLoup

#15

Image source: sindoor_tere_naam_ka, Mesut çiçen/unsplash Please develop some hobbies & find something you're truly passionate about. Don't make me the center of your world—just as my life doesn't revolve around you, yours shouldn't revolve around me.

#16

We are so starved of positive attention that a single compliment will stay with us for years. Image source: mattymase88

#17

Anything you try to solve/put on my plate/seriously discuss/or want to show me AS I'm walking in the house returning from work will annoy me. Just give me 15 minutes and I can then be present. Image source: pozzicore

#18

How many of us feel unloved, unseen, and silently breaking, but too afraid to say it. Image source: gilligan888

#19

What we're really looking at. Sometimes, our eyes randomly land on your print shirt, tattoo, necklace, or whatever else you've got in-between your chin and navel, the reason we looked away was because we realized there are b***s there, and we 100% weren't checking you out. Image source: Humble_Ladder

#20

Ok I've got a few: - How a lot of men just aren't that concerned with small inconveniences or issues - Just how many women's 'guy friends' secretly just want to sleep with them - How many men (that they probably see on a daily basis) are struggling with their MH. Loneliness, feelings of inadequacy, feeling unattractive etc. Image source: RollingAtlas

#21

Image source: MuchNefariousness285, B L/unsplash I forgot one, not brutal but... When you're walking home alone at night, and we are walking behind you in the same direction, 90% of men are conscious that is a very worrying/terrfying prospect for you. And we get stuck in a "Do I slow down to be further behind but risk makng this woman think I am trying to follow her? Or do I just try and overtake her to scurry off into the distance but scare the s**t out of this lady with my closing footsteps?" If I can I just take a turn off my path and just add a minute or two to my walk home and f**k there's another lady walking home this way! It's not fun to always feel like a threat, but I know that doesn't compare to the absolutely justified feeling that you're always at risk for simply living.

#22

Image source: Onlyspeaksfacts, Vardan Papikyan/unsplash The hypocrisy. If I sit down to play a game for 2 hours I'm a useless couch potato who never does anything. If she's mindlessly browsing Instagram or TikTok until her phone's battery gives out, that's A-Ok!

#23

How attractive natural beauty is . No nips tucks. I want the cellulite and little belly. How beautiful the natural beauty is . Also how much we do miss you when you're not around. Because we can't admit that as men . Image source: LEGBur

#24

We often find your long hairs in our buttcrack and are mystified as to how they ended up there. Image source: drdildamesh

#25

I know this is gonna sound like crybaby s**t, but how f*****g hard it is just to be a man sometimes. And I’m not that does not take away from how hard it is to be a woman, and the fears that come with that. And I’m a strong believer in the “men are afraid women will hurt their feelings. Women are afraid men will k**l them, and that’s a real statement. However, men are only men. We don’t have a choice. We are born what we are, we have a choice, not to be the sons of bitches that they’re afraid of and a good number of us try to and not enough of us try to stop the ones that don’t. But nonetheless, it is f*****g hard being a man And even in this statement, I have to acknowledge that I understand it’s even harder to be a woman, but it’s kind of like that saying first world problems yeah but I live in the first world, so my problems are my problems. They’re all I have and they are real to me that does not mean I don’t think a person in a Third World has a harder problem, but this is mine and it’s real. Image source: Theartistcu

#26

Image source: PowerWisdomCourage, Marie-Michèle Bouchard/unsplash How much we look past and don't comment on just to keep things peaceful.

#27

That we are softer, more emotional and more human than you think. Image source: thesudacadude

#28

When we legit compliment you on something, and you don't believe us. Image source: pacoali

#29

How honest they are the majority of the time. I genuinely think some women would be astonished that we're not playing mind games. Image source: in-a-microbus

#30

Image source: anemoi87, Curated Lifestyle/unsplash I think it would boil down to this: Men’s lives are complicated enough already. We dont care about “love” like a Pinterest board. What we want is PEACE. Relief. Clarity. To go home and not have to read between the lines, decode, translate, calculate, walk on eggshells, wonder if we forgot something inconsequential etc.

#31

Image source: winotaurs, Kateryna Hliznitsova/unsplash “I love you with all my heart I just need you to leave me alone and don’t touch me for a moment” “Please stop asking if I love you every 5 minutes my answer hasn’t changed trust me” “Just cause I don’t express emotions as vividly as you do doesn’t mean I don’t have them” “Think just for a moment if these roles were reversed how would you feel if I did that to you”.

#32

That we are legit sitting here thinking about nothing. Image source: defender02

#33

That we don't like to feel pressured to have s*x. Whilst many of us have a high libido, it doesn't automatically mean that we are f**k machines ready to go at any moment. We might not be in the mental space, or have body insecurities, or just a bad day. Consent goes both ways, and it seems like a man cannot say "no" to s*x without causing conflict in the relationship. We are the same species, at the end of the day. We also can feel Extremely lonely and touch starved sometimes. Image source: NoxRose

#34

Maybe not all men but for me…. We actually love to be in photos with you. We love to be posted on your social media. We love when you hug us from behind. We love being the little spoon when cuddling. We lose all of that care and nurturing when we become men and it takes us back to times when we felt safe as a child. It makes us feel loved and secure. And many of us tell you to stop it because we know that we have to be the manly man but inside…we love it. Image source: Inside-Complexity

#35

* We think about s*x, even with strangers, friends, colleagues, or people we have no intention of acting on it with. It’s not always romantic or emotional. It can be mechanical, objectifying, and random. * Many men go years without being complimented meaningfully. A random “you smell good” from a woman in 2019 might still live rent-free in their brain. * A lot of men are walking around with depression, loneliness, grief, father issues, childhood trauma buried under layers of humor, work, and p**n. * We constantly compare ourselves: height, status, salary, muscles, p***s size, job title, car and are silently tortured by it. * Men can be deeply in love with their partner and still be visually or sexually attracted to others. It doesn’t always mean disrespect, just biology. But yeah, it can be disturbing. * Most men, especially in long-term partnerships, are quietly terrified of being "not enough." As a provider, lover, partner, or father. And it eats them inside. Image source: Xansolic