30 Therapist’s Words That People Won't Easily Forget

If you’ve wondered whether therapy works for people, look no further than this list. When a Redditor asked, “What’s one thing a therapist has said to you that you will never forget?”, people opened up with their most valuable reflections.  From understanding how to use human behavioural patterns to defeat binge eating to realising that sometimes depression is unresolved anger. Folks revealed the unforgettable words of wisdom from their therapists that made the experience worth the money and time. Scroll to check out the eye-opening pieces of advice that affected individuals the most, according to the responses on the thread. 

#1 “The urge to binge lasts 7 minutes”.

Image source: MCSweatpants, Tim Samuel / pexels I struggled with binge eating disorder for 20 years and finally sought help last January. I would get the urge to binge around the same time every night, around 9:30. I bought a little sudoku book from the dollar store and played for 10 minutes every time I got the urge to binge. Obviously, it took a lot more than that statement for me to begin my recovery, and those 7 minutes were absolutely grueling for the first few months, but I can proudly say I’ve been binge-free since February 1st, 2023.

#2 Therapist: “If you were my client while you were a minor i would have absolutely called child services.” Me: “What? Why? They weren’t perfect, but it’s not like they were abusing me.” Therapist (after a brief pause): “Not all abuse leaves bruises that others can see.”

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#3 “Just because someone is trying their best that doesn’t mean it’s okay.”

Image source: myrtlebarracuda, freepik For context we were discussing a family member who just sucks at communicating; he often just ignores me, makes no attempts to get to know me as I am now, is generally just not a great family member. He’s trying his best, but it’s not good enough. I don’t have to act like it is.

#4 "Notice the feelings, like leaves on a river. Call them what they are, then let them go, let them float down the river past you. Don't judge yourself for having them, and don't engage with them. Simply acknowledge them, let them go, and move on." I remember these words vividly because it's a coping strategy I use almost every day.

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#5 Depression doesn’t have to be sadness or the lack of happiness. It could come in the form of unresolved anger. Made me reframe a lot of what I was trying to fix.

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#6 That child that was never loved or acknowledged is still waiting, not on your parents but on you. You are her parent now. Will you ignore her, not love her, not value her, and not find her worthy as well? You decide if she thrives or survives. Your parents let her down. Will you do the same?

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#7 There is a difference between “I don’t want to live anymore “ and “I don’t want to live LIKE THIS anymore” - yup, Mrs. Kim, you were right and I’m still around!

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#8 “You can be alone, and that’s ok. if only one person ever loves you, even if that person is you, it is enough.”

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#9 I had talked recently about my inability to find a partner because I’m looking for XYZ and “not a lot of women fit what I’m looking for.”

Image source: VikingRodeo9, Satumbo 9 / pexels She paused for a minute and asked me “well…what kind of partner do YOU want to be?” Blew my mind. Completely changed my approach to dating.

#10 "You have family, it just looks different." I learned to ignore my blood relatives and call my friends my chosen family. I have the best family now :)

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#11 “You don’t have to be perfect to be good enough.” That really changed how I see myself and my struggles. It stuck with me.

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#12 I was telling my psychiatrist about my worries and fears that kept me up at night for the past several years.

Image source: TahoeMoon, cottonbro studio / pexels Psych : When did these thoughts begin? Me: “Probably for the past 15 years” Psych: “And in 15 years of sleepless nights, how many of these things have actually occurred and you had to take care of them?” Me: “Not a single one” Psych: “Then why not wait to deal with it when it actually happens?” The simplicity of that statement was almost childish, but it really made me realize that I was worrying for no reason and I was able to stop that behavior.

#13 She asked if there was anything I wanted to do in my life that I no longer thought I could do. I told her that I wanted to go to law school but that was no longer in the cards for me. She said, “you know that you can still go to law school right? No one has to give you permission.”

Image source: sethscoolwife, KATRIN BOLOVTSOVA / pexels I’ll be graduating with my JD in May of next year. I doubt she understands the true impact of her simple statement that day.

#14 "You can't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm"

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#15 “You’ve brought up how Chipotle sending you just a bowl of beans in a DoorDash order has affected you 9 times in your last 25 visits. I believe you may be autistic.”

Image source: FiestaRaquel, Boryslav Shoot / pexels Spoiler: I’m autistic.

#16 “If you make an intentional, well thought-out decision, how someone else responds to it is none of your business” I didn’t believe him for years.

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#17 There comes a time when you have to transition from being your son's manager to his consultant.

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#18 When you get married, realize that you’re marrying multiple people. Who you are and who your spouse is today isn’t going to be who they are 10-15 years from now. Changed the way I view a lot of discussions with my partner ever since.

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#19 “You show up for other people because no one ever showed up for you, and you don’t ever want anyone else to feel that pain.”

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#20 "When I first read your file I thought for sure I'd see a long history of dysfunctional relationships, violent crime and prison time. Instead you've managed to turn into a relatively normal person. I see 5 different traumas from your childhood, any one of which would be enough to have derailed the life of most people. The fact that you're relatively normal is actually a testament to you as a good person."

Image source: Icy-Computer-Poop, Photo By: Kaboompics.com / pexels Made me cry. Hard to say to people "sure I'm messed up, but at least I deserve some credit for not being anywhere near as messed up as I could be" and have them understand. It was nice to be seen and understood by someone.

#21 My therapist and I were discussing how I felt about a pretty deep betrayal from my now ex-wife. I was beating myself up for not seeing how bad she really was when there was plenty of evidence. He wrote down something on his yellow notepad and then held it up right in my face, practically touching my nose.

Image source: flutter_quirkzz, Tara Winstead / pexels He said "what's that say?" I couldn't read it; it was too close to my face. Stepping back from it a bit, it could read it said "you're too close to see it." He was right. I was too close to the problems and the situation to have been able to see it where in retrospect it was so obvious. I stopped beating myself up over it and was able to let it go.

#22 "You can’t control how others treat you, but you can control how long you allow it." That really stuck with me because it shifted the way I approached toxic relationships and situations.

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#23 "maybe the reason it's so hard to believe your significant other loves you is because it's the first time in your life you've ever experienced unconditional love"

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#24 For me, it was a time I was talking about how self-conscious I was when dating and what that other person thought of me. She told me "You're so focused on whether that person would like you, that you don't even realize if you even like them back".

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#25 She once told me “you don’t have to earn rest”. It hit me hard because I always felt I had to accomplish a certain amount or be productive before I could relax. Hearing that made me realize it’s okay to just be, and that rest is a right, not a reward. It really changed how I approach self-care and balance in my life. 21st century hustle culture is toxic.

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#26 A therapist once told me, "You don’t have to fix everything at once. Just start somewhere." It helped me let go of the pressure to be perfect and focus on small steps. It made the bigger issues feel less overwhelming.

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#27 "You're a people pleaser. And, aren't you a people? So,when is it YOUR turn?"

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#28 She made(asked) me sit at a park and look at the children at a playground and asked me how could I at that age of done anything to deserve the abuse. I was in a space where I felt I was to blame somehow. I will never forget my rage at realizing I was a baby.

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#29 “When you stop making yourself small, some people will no longer fit in your life.”

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#30 “You’re whole life you had to fight to prove yourself to the people around you and now you’re just tired”

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