Women Asked Men The Questions They’ve Been Holding Back, Here Are 30 Eye-Opening Answers

Reddit is a treasure trove of curiosity, confessions, and sometimes, courage. One such thread that struck a chord with many was posted with the question: “Women of Reddit, what questions for men have you always wanted to ask but would normally be socially unacceptable?”

The post opened the floodgates to candid queries that are often left unspoken in day-to-day life—questions wrapped in curiosity, confusion, and sometimes frustration. What followed was an eye-opening exchange between women who dared to ask and men who chose to answer honestly.

Here are some of the most thought-provoking and intriguing questions—and the responses they received.

#1

Image source: GreenEyedHawk, Katerina Holmes Why do you so often interpret basic niceness as flirting? LexGlad: Most men receive so little daily kindness that any attention is considered out of the ordinary.

#2

Image source: ObeseHam, Kaboompics.com What’s the longest y’all have went without watching p**n? anonymous: 13 years from when I was born until I discovered the internet.

#3

Image source: anon, Polina Tankilevitch Does an obvious physical flaw/imperfection on an otherwise conventionally attractive woman matter as much as we think it does to you? Like say you think a girl is a 10/10, but then you notice a huge mole on her neck or she has crooked teeth or a scar on her face. Is she now a lower score or do you not care? ezralv: Often makes her more attractive. Beautiful women are already too hard to relate to. Have some imperfection is humanizing.

#4

Image source: IPABrad, SHVETS production Does it annoy you, that women talk about your d**k size (in vivid detail) with all their friends after they sleep with you? Electrical-Bother942: Yes. It's not your right to share personal details about someone just because you slept with them.

#5

Image source: NimbleVaseline, Getty Images When you sit down on a toilet, what happens to ur nuts? Do they rest on the toilet seat? lmao. RoilToilBoil: No they don’t rest on the seat. They just hang like fruits on a tree. Not sure how better to describe that.

#6

Image source: DirectorChick, Deesha Chandra Why is marriage such a terrifying prospect for many men? roadrunner440x6: It's not terrifying in the least. I find it a silly pointless ritual with no added commitment and a huge waste of money. And then, when it's time to go your separate ways (which statistically is almost a certainty) it is an additional cost and inconvenience. All because society tells us 'that's the way it's supposed to be'? F**K THAT. Save your money and put it towards a house, retirement, or vacationing.

#7

Image source: bluesourpatchxoxo, William Fortunato Why do you always nod at each other? Commodore-K9: I acknowledge that you are a complex organism living through your own struggles in a chaotic, hectic and unfair world and I mean you no trouble bro. Electrical-Bother942: Show of respect.

#8

Image source: anon, Pavlo Osipov Why do you look so intently when I'm wearing a skirt when you can see basically the same or more when I'm at the beach?? Vargasa871: Its like seeing a lion in the wild, compared to seeing one at the zoo.

#9

Image source: anon, cottonbro studio What do you actually think of a girl who asks you out first? anonymous: Love it.

#10

Image source: lnmhylian, chen pincheng Why would you not wipe your a*s to its cleanest? Why would you come away from a s**t, wipe, and see s**t covered toilet paper and think to yourself "meh. Good enough". Does extended time in the bathroom make you uncomfortable?! I'm seriously confused. Edit: I have learned much. anonymous: I'm going to assume that you're referring to skid marks found in underwear after a long day of wearing them, and not that you've encountered someone who literally left some chocolate on the rim after each bowel movement. For the latter, there is no excuse. However, many men fall victim to the former on a far more regular basis than we'd like, myself included. When you have a hairy a**hole, many times you can wipe and wipe, and it'll even look clean on the paper when you finish up, but somehow there is still some residue left in the canopy of a** hair that will resurface post wipe. Especially on hotter days or during physical activities. Therefore, we try our best to schedule the [poops] pre-shower, or in an environment that is more conducive to cleanliness. Unfortunately when nature calls we aren't always afforded access to baby wipes or a shower to rinse out the foliage. I hope this helps ease your mind and provides some clarification for you.

#11

Image source: zedstiberius, Andrea Piacquadio Men on the street - does sexually creeping on women you don't know ever work out for you? Seriously just why. anonymous: My buddy who is a complete horn-dog would always quote Gretzky, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." In reality, they have low self esteem and feel empowered by making women feel vulnerable by cat-calling. I don't even think most guys realize that is why they are doing it, but essentially they lack the adequate social skills to approach women in a polite manor and instead just try to dynamite fish. I have never met a single guy who cat-calls at women who looks at them as equals. It's about dominance and misogyny, usually stemming from a failed relationship that they never took the time to be introspective enough and failed at any attempts of empathy.

#12

Image source: Wolfine152, nappy I've always wondered if some guys feel expressively oppressed so they channel their individuality through ties, socks and their hair. Would a majority of guys want male skirts or dresses to be socially acceptable?Have you ever wanted to wear makeup? and do you get jealous of girls being able to wear basically anything to a formal occasion? Or are you happy with the tux?? xedralya: One, if you think about it, we're all basically forbidden in formal settings from showing any skin. If you're a dude, you will have multiple layers of fabric covering your entire body from toes to wrists to neck. Snugly. There is a literal rope around your throat. It'd be nice to be able to wear anything else. Two, you have no idea how p***ed-off we get that you're in a comfortable skirt or dress in the summertime, and we're in slacks and a tie. Who had the bright idea to require the gender that sweats more heavily to wear more clothing all of the time? (Don't get me wrong - you feel pretty manly when you look good in a tux. Then you start to move around, and you wish it had tubes of ice water running through it because you're under four layers.)

#13

Image source: Fidesphilio, Kindel Media What is the actual sensation like of getting kicked in the balls? Does it really hurt that badly? anonymous: Yes, the reaction you normally see isn't exaggeration. It is incredibly painful. It starts as an immediate sharp pain then dulls into this persistent throbbing that is at first as fierce as the initial hit. But then it ebbs away in painful little pulses. And the worst part is you feel it in your stomach as well, and at times you may vomit. The only sensation I can compare it to is stubbing your toe on a sharp steel corner running full speed and barefoot.

#14

Image source: Aceandmace, Anastasia Shuraeva Don't you need more hugs? Your friends don't hug you. Men don't hug each other at all. Shouldn't you hug each other? Don't you need hugs?? letsgo_boiiis: Hugs, compliments, anything that seems totally normal for a girl to do makes a man feel like he is the most important man in the world. You don’t even have to like the person, I have a female friend and we both have stated we only ever want to be friends, but she just said, “oh my gosh you were so funny” back in middle school and I remember it. Any attention toward a guy is very much valued, it will make him feel so good, so I encourage you to compliment a guy friend of yours, or hug them, anything will make him feel a thousand times better about himself.

#15

Image source: grammeofsoma, Helena Lopes Do guys talk about the details of their s*x lives with other guys? Why or why not? coldequation: "A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell." Advice I got from my grandfather, and it extends to other activities, as well.

#16

Image source: FireflyFreak, Andrea Piacquadio Does ball size matter to a guy in terms of his confidence? i understand that d**k size matters, but does ball size? What if he has a huge d**k and tiny balls? What if he has a tiny d**k and huge balls? ThereW0LF: If the balls are abnormally big it's time to see a doctor. Otherwise the size of the balls doesn't matter.

#17

Image source: Kellianne, Ekaterina Belinskaya What do you do with an unexpected and inappropriate erection? svhu7ngshbbj: Tuck it up in my waistband so it's not obvious. Pawnulabob: Tense the legs, which requires more blood flow, diverting it from the [private parts].

#18

Image source: anon, Edward Eyer Why is it not okay for your girlfriend to be friends with a boy who has a crush on her, but she doesn't like him romantically? yetanotherweirdo: Because you know that guy is going to be constantly trying or wanting to get into her pants, and sometimes the guy succeeds. The guy may also try to undermine you as part of his goal. He is in short, your enemy.

#19

Image source: winchester47, Alin Luna Once and for all…does it bother you guys when we fart in front of you?? RabidusUnus: We honestly don’t care, at all. ImpossibleMindset: It would make me very unhappy if someone I admired felt uncomfortable just being a living thing while around me.

#20

Image source: anon, Andrea Piacquadio Do men really care if a women has no makeup on and has her hair in a ponytail? When I go out to run errands I really couldn't care less about how "girly" I look, more about how quick I can get done so I can go home and netflix binge. But sometimes I feel like I look like a pile of garbage just because I have a pair of jeans and a loose tshirt on. Haboob_AZ: I don't care if you don't wear makeup or do your hair. Natural beauty is just fine with me. If you want to wear makeup for other events (dates, just wanting to look extra gorgeous) that's fine too. Sometimes that IDGAF look can actually be pretty hot. Weird how it works.

#21

Image source: academiclady, cottonbro studio I read and hear a lot about how tough it is to be man in American society, but do you ever feel thankful, for any reason, to have been born a man? I don't mean concerning biological stuff -- like being happy not to have to deal with periods or child birth or chaffing under your b***s when you exercise. I mean in a larger societal context. EDIT: I feel like I should have phrased the question differently. What I am asking for is, *why are you grateful for being a man?* I very much appreciate the issues of being a man in American society and am keen to discuss this topic in another venue, here I am curious as to what you are *glad* about. I know this is a tricky question to ask, and the phrasing of the question for the thread made it seem like a good place to ask tricky questions. skullturf: There are some things I like about being a man. One is: I can go into a random bar by myself, and just relax and have a beer, and it's unlikely that anyone will be weird or creepy to me. I mean, it could happen, and once on a rare occasion it does, but the vast majority of the time, it doesn't. I get to be "neutral". I get to be just "some guy".

#22

Image source: Leigh_Lemon, Christian Buehner Do most guys try, at some point, to see if they could suck their own d***s? Zacchaeusbastardo: Not most of us, every last one of us has tried it at some point.

#23

Image source: TA704, Ketut Subiyanto What's the deal with men loving threeways? I mean why do you think that men want threeways more than women? twatchops: Females are hot. We want as many as possible. Foursome would be nice too. vahntitrio: Because we aren't genetically that far removed from animals that try to impregnate as many females as physically possible.

#24

Image source: anon, SHVETS production Why are guys so serious about the topic of what a curvy girl is really supposed to look like? forsayken: Because the term "curvy" is not interchangeable with "obese" and far too many people think it is. captainfantastyk: It's like the difference between body builder muscular. And weight lifter muscular. Hafthor bjornsson (the mountain on game of thrones) is the strongest man in the world. But many wouldn't say he looks muscular compared to say Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime.

#25

Image source: anon, cottonbro studio How do men deal with break ups differently?? I cry, eat tons of ice cream, and jam sad music, watch heartbreaking movies. Guys just seem to handle them differently. JustMid: I think everyone handles it differently regardless of gender. Koolaidwifebeater: We get taught not to do that and just kind of force ourselves to be happy or just 'sit out' the sadness untill you don't feel it anymore.

#26

Do guys get curious about their friends [private parts]? Do you quietly check them out at the urinal? Electrical-Bother942: F**k no. You always leave an empty urinal between you and the bros. You look at the ceiling and don't talk until after you leave the bathroom. Image source: IPABrad

#27

Image source: Fit-Relation9093, Andrea Piacquadio Is queefing a turn off? Shaggarooney:Not a turn off exactly, but it is hilarious and laughing a lot can take you out of the sexy mood. Snakedoctor404: No not good or bad... might get a new pet name Queen Laqueefa in the bedroom in good fun.

#28

Image source: Iamkittyhearmemeow, Marisa Harris Why draw d***s on everything? beatokko: It's an old human tradition. There are [private parts] depictions and sculptures thousands of years old. The richness of a culture has its roots in traditions. So there, we'll draw d***s on the bathroom door for the following generations to behold the beauty of reproduction. The_Juggler17: Pretty sure it's a primal instinct, a natural and ancient behavior. When we can't think of anything else, draw d***s on it.

#29

Image source: CordyCakes, Ryan Hoffman Do you really find the average woman wearing leggings or yoga pants to be hugely distracting and an immediate turn on? Because the number of times I was told in high school that wearing those pants (aka the most comfy pants on earth) would distract my male peers is just crazy. And I'm not talking "obviously too tight with tons of camel toe like in p**n" leggings, but normal ones. IHOP007: Leggings/yogapants make almost anyone's a** and legs look 2x better. I would say a nice bum is distracting, but not immediate b**er material. That being said, I agree yoga pants and leggings are by far the most comfortable pants ever made and I would wear them all the time if it was socially acceptable for me to do so.

#30

Image source: Philofelinist, Kampus Production Would you feel betrayed if a female faked her orgasm? Does period blood disgust you? Do you feel emasculated if your female partner earns more than you? Bisexual men, what physical differences between men and women do you find appealing? Do you gossip much with your fellow guy friends? OutOfNamesToPick: 1. Betrayed is a big word. I'd feel 'betrayed' (for lack of a better word) that you felt it was needed to fake an orgasm. Personally I prefer women to not fake one, I don't really expect one during penetrative s*x. Also, not faking an orgasm gives me a good excuse to give oral. 2. Yes. I don't know what makes it different from normal blood, which I don't find disgusting. 3. No. If you deserve more than me, especially in a society where you generally get paid less for the same job, you probably deserve ot. My identity as a man is not defined by how much I earn. Or how much more I earn than my partner. 4. I'm afraid I can't really answer this. Although if I had to describe things I find appealing on men and not women it would be muscles. Especially shoulder and back muscles. 5. I suppose you could call it gossip, yes. I don't really know how much women gossip, but it happens to sometimes discuss a fellow friend. For instance if they slack off.