40 People Confess The Things They Only Understood Embarrassingly Late

Reddit can be a goldmine of hard-earned wisdom, and when two threads recently asked “What did you realize too late in life?” and “What’s something women learn too late in life?” the responses were brutally honest, deeply relatable, and sometimes a little heartbreaking.

Across both questions, thousands of people shared lessons they wish they had learned years earlier, like lessons about love, self-worth, boundaries, work, and simply being human. Here are some of the most striking answers.

#1

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That time is the only non-replenishable resource. You can make more money, you can find new friends and relationships, but if you waste years of your life not living the way you want to live, those years are gone forever.

#2

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Just cause you’re kind to someone doesn’t mean they’ll be kind to you.

#3

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Smoking that first cigarette was a bad choice.

#4

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You are influenced by everything you surround yourself with, be it people, hobbies, or environment. Therefore, choose wisely.

#5

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You cannot help another person, if they are not ready to receive help.

#6

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Some people aren’t worth it.

#7

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Not too late but the fact that nobody actually cares that much about you is liberating. Stop being so nervous!

#8

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Don’t take your health for granted.

#9

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Cut your losses.

Don’t cling to a mistake just because you’ve spent a lot of time and effort making it.

#10

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Just because someone tells you something in a soft supportive tone, doesn’t mean they are actually supporting you.

#11

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Just talk to her, you have a much better chance than you think.

#12

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That all people are flawed and I need to figure out what kind of person I want to be for myself, instead of just emulate someone I idolize.

#13

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Friends in high school are not as Important as you think they are.

#14

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Nobody has a clue. Most people have insecurities and problems and are too busy worrying about their own to give a care about your minor mess ups.

#15

Tell people you love them. Ask them questions about their life. Listen to their stories. Connect, even when it’s hard, even when you’re a teenager who thinks ‘they know better’. Cause someday you wake up and you have a hundred questions you wish you asked them before they were gone and a hundred things you should have told them while they were here.

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#16

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To stop caring of what people think.

Particularly people I don’t know/care about. I value the opinions of my family/friends (somewhat).

#17

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That I’m smarter than everyone said I was. When I was little I was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome and immediately placed in special ed classes. My parents thought I couldnt do homework so for about 10 years they did 90% of all my homework. Around my junior or senior year of high school I decided I want to try and do my own work to see if I could. I passed with all C’s. After graduating I tried to enter the military but because of my diagnosis I was told I couldn’t. I decided after that to try community college. I struggled at first but learned for to properly study and use time management and passed school with a degree in CADD with a 2.6 GPA. Looked for a job, but ended up working at a factory where I gained confidence in myself and enrolled at a university. Currently I am 24 and a college softmore with a 3.2GPA and tons of student loan debt. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about where I would be if i had just done my own work in school.

#18

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If you let people take advantage of you they will.

#19

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You need to be careful with your diet.

#20

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All of my anxiety and problems were caused by the amount of alcohol I was drinking to escape my anxiety and problems.

I’m glad I worked it out but I wish it had been 20 years earlier.

#21

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“Baby on Board” indicates that the driver is distracted/tired.

#22

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To not spend so much of my life running in circles justifying other people’s poor treatment of me. I thought it was just something I needed to be less sensitive of, that everyone has different motivations & if someone has his reasons I could work out a way that made it ok. Nope. I can decide that their motivations don’t mean anything, and nope right out if they can’t correct it when I tell them how they’ve hurt me.