40 Social Etiquette Rules People Feel No Longer Belong In Society

Published 1 month ago

As kids, we are taught to respect our elders. However, more and more of the modern youth sector is protesting the arbitrary nature of these types of rules. The obligatory social etiquettes that once defined civilised interactions don’t seem relevant to the current society we live in. 

Recently a heated discussion sparked up on Reddit when one user asked, “What’s a common social etiquette rule you just don’t agree with?” Scroll below to read some of the opinions people shared in response. 

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#1 Being “fashionably late”. The party is at 7, why is everyone showing up at 8-9?  I find it so rude.

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#2 “Respect your elders.” Sorry, a lot of my elders are unrespectable.

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#3 No, John, I’m not spending the first ten minutes of the meeting discussing everyone’s weekend plans. Let’s just get down to business so we can end the meeting ASAP.

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#4 Giving up airplane seats so people can sit together. If I’m not being upgraded to a better seat, I’m not moving.

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#5 People, usually men, mistaking the notion of a firm handshake to mean squeezing the f**k out of your hand.

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#6 How saying you don’t want to hang out with someone is considered rude. Instead society expects you to come up with a good reason, as if saying “I’m an introvert and I like having my alone time. Maybe we can hang out some other time.” Isn’t good enough.

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#7 ‘The customer is always right’. Absolutely not.

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#8 Having kids hug/embrace every single person even though they don’t know them at social family gathering.

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#9 I have NEVER understood why people are afraid to tell someone else they have food in their teeth or something on their face. I’m going to be more embarrassed if I get home and see the lipstick on my teeth. AND I’m going to be annoyed with you for not mentioning it!

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#10 Talking about money. F*****g discuss your wages, especially with your coworkers. It’s how you figure out if you’re being taken advantage of by your management, and it helps you put into perspective how other people in your field are doing and how you can improve your own income.

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#11 Forcing kids to share their brand new gifts at a birthday party. naw. keep those doodoo-butter fingers off the new merchandise unless junior graciously permits you to play with it.

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#12 Having people in the service industry smile ask about your day. It’s all completely insincere and exhausting and not just to the poor worker. I don’t want to have to smile and lie to a stranger. I just want to buy my s**t and go.

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It sometimes gets pushed way too f*****g far. There’s a popular coffee kiosk chain where I live where the baristas are all forced to chat while you wait for them to make the coffee, and it takes a while so, the “how are you/fine” exchange doesn’t fill enough time. They ask about favorite movies and “if you had a super power” and anything to just keep this pointless unwanted conversation going. Just… just stop. All I want is coffee. I don’t want to think of what my favorite tree is, and you don’t care. This isn’t a conversation, this is chore.

It’s exhausting.

#13 Talking on speakerphone loudly no matter where the f**k you are. It’s so common I genuinely notice people that are actually using their phones built in speaker and not using the f*****g speakerphone.

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#14 I despise that it’s more socially acceptable to BE an a*****e than it is to call someone out for being an a*****e. It’s like when someone’s being publicly rude, people would rather just ignore it and look the other way than say “Hey buddy you’re being a d**k to everyone around you, knock it the hell off”.

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#15 Putting cutlery at the beginning of buffet tables. I do not know which utensils I need until I am done selecting all of my food and they are awkward to carry while filling my plate with said food. It belongs at the end and I die on this hill.

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#16 Waiting for people to take photos before walking through. It was polite in the 80s when people took one photo per day, but these days you’d never get anywhere in a tourist city if you waited. It’s not reasonable to hold up a pavement while you take 17 photos for your Instagram. I’m going through.

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#17 Going out for a birthday or occasion with a bunch of people or even just a few friends and having to split the bill evenly . I don’t mind it if it’s a few dollar difference, but often times I’ll get something cheaper on the menu and maybe one drink whereas others are ordering steaks and 4 drinks and I owe $100 or more. Whenever it’s the opposite and I order the more expensive things, I always make sure to tell people to just pay for what they owe. I wish others had the same decency.

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#18 Men and women having different standards when it comes to being topless in public.

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#19 Hear me out: people expecting an immediate text or call back as if they are entitled to your time. Obviously, I do not mean emergencies, but you get my gist.

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EDIT: Thank you all for the upvotes and comments, it doesn’t make me feel so alone in my thoughts ❤️.

#20 Tipping in 95% of situations. Just doing your job should not require a tip. Businesses should pay more and not put it on the customers. I always tip 25% or more because it’s not the workers’ fault that companies are awful but it just rubs me the wrong way.

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#21 Turning down something when you actually want it because it’s “polite.”

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This happened to me a lot when I was a kid but every once in a while as an adult this weird social thing will happen.

Person: Would you like something to drink?

Me: Yes, please. Thank you.

Person: *shocked Pikachu face* Oh, I was just being polite.

Me: Were you, Vicki? Because that seems rude to me.

#22 Being on time is late. No, being late is being late. I’m not giving anyone more of my time than I need to.

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#23 You can be blunt and be honest without being rude, sometimes it’s the best thing to do.

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#24 Asking “How are you?” and expecting a standard lie in response.

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#25 I’m gonna get downvoted for this but I dislike that it’s become socially acceptable to wear your pajamas in public. I get you want to be comfortable, but put on a t shirt and jeans or shorts or something.

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#26 Not putting the salary on the job advert.

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#27 Men always ask women out, if a woman does it it makes her look desperate, do away with this social etiquette and let whoever has feelings for whomever make the first move regardless of gender.

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#28 Not taking the last piece of food on a sharing platter. The number of times I’ve seen a perfectly good piece of garlic bread go cold and get thrown away….

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#29 I’m a big fan of the Irish goodbye.

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#30 Smoke breaks

You mean to tell me by smoking you get an extra hour a day to do whatever you want?!

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Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.

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