26 Things People Who Chose ‘Child-Free Lifestyle’ Feel They Are Missing Out On

Published 9 months ago

Choosing a child-free lifestyle is a big decision that will inevitably impact the rest of your life in many significant ways. The support for this lifestyle choice is currently growing and folks are quick to wax lyrical about the financial benefits, peace of mind and the refusal to contribute to a growing population problem. However, just like there are positive aspects we can’t blind ourselves to the reality that there may be some cons to this lifestyle choice too. 

Reddit user /No_Edu1998 recently got on the platform inquiring from those who’ve already been living the child-free life what disadvantages they have noted and would like others to be aware of. Scroll to read the most insightful responses found on the thread, which we’ve shared in the gallery below. 

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My work makes me not only work more hours, but they also ‘make’ me work the hours no one else can work because they have kids.

Like later shifts and overnights. Also during Covid, people with kids could 100% telework and most still do partially. Since I don’t have kids I had and still have to come into the office every single day, no exceptions. When others with kids ask for vacations days, they always get priority, even if I asked and got it approved first.

I’ve told my work NO more then once and they are shocked when I remind them that just because I don’t have kids doesn’t mean I don’t have a life outside work.


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According to Reddit there are none. Having kids is a drain on your finances, your personal wellbeing, and ruins the planet.

I had one because I thought we could provide a loving, stable home to raise someone who could be a productive member of the next generation of people. It’s also fun to pass down traditions such as dressing up and trick or treating for Halloween, drinking out of the hose in summer, that the proper way to eat ice cream is with sprinkles. I knew I would miss out on that if I didn’t, it’s sort of intangible and lots of people on here would say it’s not worth it. I don’t expect them to take care of me when I’m old, but I’d be honoured to still be a part of their life when they are an adult.


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I’m 40, I don’t have kids.

4 years ago I moved to a new place and befriended my neighbour, he has 1 daughter from a previous relationship, his girlfriend has 2 more (also from a previous relationship).

They both used to work shifts, so they needed a babysitter for the two daughters of his gf, the other girl would go to her mom’s place, as she lives really close.

One year ago, they couldn’t find a babysitter for 3 days, and I had to pick up these 2 girls ( 5 and 8 years old at the time), from school, help them with homework, have them shower, make them dinner and then put them to bed.

They already knew me of course as I often hang out with their mother and my neighbour, but I’ve never kept them alone.

I had the best of times. They were a blast. Lovely, kind, would not talk back or make a scene.

Nowadays they’re 7 and 9(nearly 10). I often go to their place and the youngest gives me the biggest hugs, then just sit on my lap while the oldest just sit next to me, and both will tell me about their day and talk about random stuff. We do lots of activity together and I’m now more like an uncle than just the neighbour. And I love it. I feel loved, I feel appreciated, It just feels… nice.

That feeling there, is what is lost when you don’t have a kid. I think it’s surely the only “pro” of having a kid.

Editing because of many comments: The goal is NOT to compare “parenting” and “being an uncle”. OF COURSE being a parent is different and has many downsides. THAT. IS. NOT. THE. POINT. OF. THE. POST.

The point is:

“what’s the con of not having kids? “> “the con is that you may miss of these good feelings kids give you when you take care of them”

Nothing more, stop misunderstanding this post. thanks.


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I’m going to put the lonely stuff aside about getting old.

The cons, is you never get to experience life through your child’s eyes.

You don’t get to see their love and excitement that happens when they see you coming home from work.

You don’t get the joy and fulfillment of teaching them, spending time with them and watching them grow.


I get these are just short answers, but it’s hard to really describe the fulfillment when your daughter runs up to you shouting “Daddy,daddy,daddy” and then just wants to hang out.

In addition to that, they are f*****g hilarious.

Edit: for all the comments of folks that think I’m describing a dog, I have 7 dogs. It’s not the same. I can be close at times they are gentle souls.

#5 Can’t really think of any except no one to take care of me if I do make it to that age, but that’s selfish AF anyway.

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#6 No one to avenge your death

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#7 Well I’m in my 60s and I don’t have kids. The down-side is now I don’t have any family, I’m the last one left.

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#8 Lack of cheap unreliable labor.

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I think it’s best to frame having kids as going on an epic life-changing adventure. There will be glory and wonder and there will be horrors. The highs will take you higher than you ever thought possible but man are those lows low.

So Con: you’ll miss out on this epic adventure.

BUT there are other paths to other adventures, ones with their own excitement and peril. Or maybe you’re more of the “stay in the Shire” type. That’s fine too.


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My dad’s side of the family is enormous. Each independent family unit has 2-4 kids, so I grew up with great grandparent, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and lots of cousins. My mom’s side of the family is much smaller. Only one aunt and two cousins. My dad’s side was always much more enjoyable on occasions and holidays. Also much more supportive when it came time for family support.

But the real kicker was watching my grandparents grow old. My dad’s parents were constantly surrounded by family with a lot of care and support as they grew old, not to mention, many more people to share the expense. My mom’s parents had almost nobody. As their friends started to pass away, there were even fewer. My mom and her sister both had busy lives and couldn’t spend a ton of time with them. Health, especially mental, deteriorated much more rapidly than the other side.

Anyhoo. That’s one of the major reasons that we had kids. People are joy, so we wanted some people of our own to continue the legacy of joy and support.

#11 People with kids, will never stop treating you like you’re strange for not having them.

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I don’t get anything for taxes like the people with kids do.

I can’t get food stamps.

If I need help with a bill, the community center won’t help me because I don’t have kids.

Being told somethings wrong with you for not having them yet.

#13 You have fewer excuses to use to call off of work.

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#14 Holidays are kinda depressing.  I went to watch my nephews open gifts on Christmas morning then spent the rest of day changing exhaust manifold gaskets, oil change, and a tune up on my truck just because I had nothing going on.

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I work with older people mostly those with serious and complex medical problems. Very often the role of carer falls to the childless adult child. Due to the perception “they don’t have anyone else to take care of thus it’s their duty”.

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#16 It can make you feel isolated from your peers, whether childless by choice or circumstance

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#17 People keep asking you when you’re going to have kids. Heck! My husband and I are in our 40s/50s with 7 adult kids between the two of us, and people STILL ask if we’re going to have more children!!! People need to stop asking other people about their reproductive goals.

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#18 Having too much money and free time.

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#19 I’m having medical emergencies in my 40s and still need my 70 year old parents to bring and take me to appointments.

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#20 I’d say one con is that I since I don’t have to get up early on the weekends to shuttle kids to games and events, I sometimes sleep in later that I expected. You wake up, and you’ve missed breakfast at McD’s, and have to order from the lunch menu. No hashbrowns for you. It sucks.

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You have to laugh at your own farts.

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The con is all the fun stuff, incredible, and amazing things you get to live as a parent. I am a mom and in literal awe of this little person and who he is, how he sees the world and what’s he’s making me see in the world every single day. I get to reexperience the world thanks to my child. I now constantly look for teeny tiny insects on the ground and get honest to God excited when I see any, or when I see certain cars, or birds. Not because that’s something that came natural to me, but because it’s something my child has made me see and appreciate. The amount of absolute belly laughs this little person has given me in his short life is completely unmatched by anyone else on this earth. It‘s autumn now and I hate the cold, but I am also absolutely giddy that it‘s starting because now I can press leaves and collect nuts with my kid. Would I give two hoots about that without him? No. But with him it’s honestly one of the more exciting things I‘m looking forward to in the next month. And let’s not even discuss Christmas. My kid makes the season magical for me.

There’s so much hard s**t about being a parent and I would never want to convince anyone to have kids if you’re not up for it. Because the hard s**t is relentless even when you are 100% onboard with being a parent. But my god is it awesome too, in the most literal sense of the word.

#23 Having to listen to all the parents tell you what a joy raising a family is

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#24 As someone who’s not married and has no children: It would be nice to have a closely bonded group of relatives to come home to every day.

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I am the estate executor for my uncle (aunt died 7 years ago and they had no kids), who died in January. Today I went down and signed the papers preliminary to close on his house, which we just sold a few weeks ago. Closing will be next week. After I signed the papers, I went over to the house which, over the last eight months my family and I have been slowly been emptying and working towards selling. I sat in that empty house and stared out at his property and got really really sad because, well, this is it.

In 4 to 5 days, it will be like him, and my aunt will have their entire life erased from this earth. There’s nothing that they’ve passed on, or rather, I should say down to their children, other than mementos and things like that which we’ve all taken in the probate process. Also, of course we all have our wonderful memories with them and love them so much but the entire life that they’ve built together in that house over the last 30 years is about to be completely erased and I know that our buyers will make it into a wonderful home for themselves, but it just feels so odd like if we didn’t remember them it would be like their entire lives will be washed away.

And I know having children wouldn’t necessarily always solve that problem but since none of us live near his property, and none of us can afford the property, no one can buy it and so it’s left to be sold and it just feels like if they had had children maybe they would’ve had someone directly to leave their house too, leave their life to, and our family in that spot could continue.

So I guess long story short I kind of see that as a con to not having kids. My mother and father, myself, and brother will all remember my aunt and uncle and so will my first cousins but after we’re gone it feels like no one will remember them anymore….like they were never here.

Idk just makes me sad

#26 I have no heirs for my fortune. I have to count on a gold digger wanting to inherit.

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Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.

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