25 Deeply Disturbing Secrets People Discovered About A Significant Other

Though we like to believe that everyone has good intentions and behaves ethically, the truth is that some people are simply putting on an act. We may trust our instincts to spot any false front, but many of these individuals are skilled at hiding their darker sides.

People in relationships who suddenly discovered a disturbing aspect of their significant other have recently shared the details of their experiences under a Reddit thread. We’ve rounded up a few eye-opening accounts of moments when someone’s perception of their relationship was forever changed by what they learned.

#1

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My ex and I connected over very severe and alarmingly similar childhood trauma experiences. almost a year into our relationship, he revealed (extremely casually, like it was no big deal) that he’d made it up. He’d heard about my past from a former mutual friend, and felt it’d be easier to get to know if we had this in common. He genuinely didn’t see an issue with doing this.

He then proceeded to ask, “since it bothered me”, if I wanted to know everything else he’d made up, too.

turned out, about 75% of what I knew about him was fake. weird funny stories and experiences, childhood memories, things that had allegedly happened to him at work – he was just making things up. When I asked him why, he reiterated that he didn’t see it as a big deal, and then explained he felt I “needed to be humbled a bit” because “my life wasn’t *that* interesting”, so he’d made up things to “match” my stories/experiences.

#2

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When he orders wings he eats the whole thing….bones and all. The plate is sent back empty.
I think the first time he did it to get a reaction out of me but it’s been 4 years and he’s still crunching away. .

#3

I found out a few days ago that my wife has been texting inappropriately with her boss, kissy emojis, going out for drinks and sushi, calling it date night. Still trying to understand the full scope of it and how to proceed.

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#4

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He put a nanny cam in our bedroom so he could spy on my therapy sessions during covid. He made a big show out of putting on headphones in the other room because he knew he could just listen in later.

#5

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They bite their fork when they eat. My soul leaves my body every time.

#6

He had a years-long affair with his stepmother.

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#7

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That she is still in love with her ex girlfriend and has been having an affair with her since before we even got married. But didn’t tell me that it was her ex girlfriend for real until this year and everybody on her side played along with it as they were only “best friends” which in turn had this girl pretending to be MY friend and my “wife” allowed it for 5 years.

Don’t worry I’m leaving lol.

#8

My ex wife spent the last decade of our marriage accusing me of having multiple affairs and/or being gay. I’ve since found out that during that decade she had 2 boyfriends and a girlfriend (not at the same time) so turns out it was all projection.

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#9

He handled the finances. He died. I found $36,000 in gambling debt.

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#10

He had such a history of using his mother and his sister, while also regarding them with scathing contempt. Both of them were flawed and selfish, but loved him deeply and unconditionally.

When he casually remarked that his forty-year-old sister (who, incidentally, was gorgeous then and still is) was a “fat old woman covered in tattoos, and she needs to start being realistic about how she wants to be treated by a man,” that was when I knew our days together were numbered and that I would never be able to un-see what that said about his regard for women.

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#11

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Doesn’t like nature. At all. It took me a while to accept this one. I had assumed that intentionally being in nature would be a source of spirituality, awe, and peace for everyone. My partner is not one of those people and only experiences extended time in nature as an annoying and inconvenient experience. But they find sources of awe and wonder and spirituality from other things such as art, music, literature, etc. We’re all just different.

#12

The most disturbing thing I found about a partner once was how they handled conflict, they’d go completely silent for days instead of talking things out. It wasn’t dramatic or explosive, just unsettling.

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#13

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She hung a Live Laugh Love thing on the wall.

I don’t understand how someone who is otherwise 100% awesome does that. Disturbing for sure.

#14

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Nothing truly scary, just their obsession with organizing the fridge by color. It’s disturbing… but also kind of impressive.

#15

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He keeps all his socks in a single giant drawer with zero pairs matched. just a chaotic ocean of fabric. disturbing? a little. fascinating? also yes.

#16

He didn’t like cats .

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#17

His relationship with his mom. First when we moved in, big drama that she doesn’t get enough attention. Then constant messages good morning and good night. Then visits every week for coffee, tea, goes to her for lunch etc. I’m living with a man and i’m loosing respect for him. I see him as a mamas boy now and having hard time imagining our future together, and it’s breaking my heart.

I fell in love hard, for the first time in my life. And i’m broken that i’m starting to see him differently.

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#18

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She likes feet gloves or whatever they’re called. Just seeing her wear them, wiggling her gloved toes, gives me anxiety.

#19

He told me stories about the two affairs he had (that his wife found out about). He was quite the storyteller and this was many, many years after the affairs and in fact he had been widowed for six years. As entertaining as these stories were, they didn’t make me think more highly of him for sure.

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#20

When she eats Kit Kats , she doesn’t break off pieces, she just eats the entire thing like it’s one bar.

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#21

My ex wife poisoned me for about 4 months.

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#22

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He squeezes the toothpaste from the middle.

#23

My ex told me he was the victim of a lot of terrible trauma. It was how I explained away a lot of his bad behavior to myself.

He made up a lot of it! If not all of it. I can’t know for sure if it’s all made up, but the fact that at least a good chunk of it was made up doesn’t fill me with hope.

I think he was very afraid of rejection and would twist the truth in horrible ways trying to make it impossible for me to leave. It makes me sad to think about, honestly. Must be harrowing to live in his brain. But good god am I relieved not to be around him anymore .

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