30 People Who Got “Toasted” By Strangers On The Internet

Published 5 years ago

Sometimes we have tough days where nothing seems to be going right. On some occasions, those days can turn into weeks or even months and all we need are just a few words of encouragement to set us on the right track. Luckily, one subreddit, called r/ToastMe, aims to provide just that.

The subreddit started as a polar opposite of the infamous r/RoastMe and the creators say that only “genuine and unique compliments by awesomely nice people” are allowed in the sub. So if you ever feel like you need some support from people who won’t judge you, this is the place. Check out the most wholesome responses people received in the gallery below!


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#1 I Wanted To Share A Big Milestone For Me. When I Was Deep In My Depression For Over A Decade I Had Planned To Disappear And Quietly Commit Suicide At Age 39. I Battled Depression And Found Reasons To Live. Today I Turned 40 And Can Now Assure My Past Self That It Does Get Better. Toast If You Want

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Congratulations on making it to this huge milestone, you must be a very strong & determined person to have overcome this. Depression is so hard to deal with and anyone who comes out alive is a hero in my books. I’m sure glad you’re still around

#2 Years Of Emotional Abuse From My Father And Denial/Enabling From My Mother Came To A Head Today. I’m Sitting In A Parking Lot Watching The Snow Fall And Crying. Please Give Me A Reason To Stop

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Hey I was where you are. I got out. I’m safe now. You will be too. I love you. I’m proud of you. I’m sorry. You didn’t deserve it. Any of it. None of it was your fault. None of it. You are worth the world. You are smart, and strong, and capable. One day, you will wake up, and it will hurt less. You will be somewhere safe. You will be somewhere you are truly loved. You can get there. You have be strength to carve out your own corner of goodness in the world. You will be okay. I swear.

#3 I’m Going To Come Out As Lesbian Today And I’m Actually Terrified. Could Use A Toast! ♥️

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Hey as a Dad who’s daughter came out to me a couple months ago I just want to say you are very brave. It was such a hard thing for my daughter to do, but the relationship we have became stronger because of her talking about this. Trust in yourself, you are a beautiful young person who is already making responsible adult decisions. I hope it goes well for you, and I’m sending you a virtual dad hug for your bravery.

#4 Lost My Mother The Day After I Was Married, 3 Years Ago. Lost My Daddy A Year Ago Right After My Birthday. Lost A Baby Earlier This Year. And Today, I Am Finally Able To Begin Cleaning Out My Parents House Of All Their Things. Tired Of Living In A Shrine To The Dead. A Toast Might Help

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Your parents clearly raised you with love and incredible strength. They would be so proud to see how you’re honoring their memory by improving your life.

#5 Having A Bad Mental Health Day, Not Liking What I See In The Mirror Really Need Some Positive

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Dude, I like what I see on my screen right now! You look like a really nice and gentle guy with really kind eyes. Here is a list of things I really like about you:

– You know how to prepare a mean charcuterie board – You seem to be a very thoughtful and intelligent guy

– You seem to have a great sense of humour – You absolutely rock that beard

– You love pirates

– You love monkeys

I found out about your existence 2 minutes ago and I already found so many things to like about you and I’m damn sure that I would fine 1000 more reasons to like you if I knew you a bit better. Stay strong, my dude and never forget that you’re awesome and important!

#6 41 Both Parents Got Sick With Cancer And Dad Has Been Dead Since October. No Real Joy In Life. Feel Worthless And Unattractive And Old. Everything Feels Meaningless. Toast Me Please?

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Hi. To be honest, I comment on here pretty sparingly. But I am sending this message as you seem like one of the few people on here who genuinely needs a toast. It’s your eyes – they look sad to the point it makes me feel it almost. I am only 24, I have never been depressed, lost a parent or experienced a relative with cancer. I cannot hope to possibly relate to how you feel. But I truly hope you get through this. I love your beard by the way, and the slicked back hair really suits you. You also have a really kind face, and such expressive eyes. You are the kind of guy that if I saw out, I would want to smile at, and would happily ask for help or directions if I ever needed help. I would strongly suggest you go to a doctor or some kind of therapy to help you deal with things. I know in the UK, there are a few cancer charities that help the families going through it and will give you a call to check in on you regularly. I know it may feel pointless or difficult sometimes but try and get out and try new things, joins some groups, keep active and just try to clear your mind. You don’t want to be stuck dwelling in a negative headspace. Take care of yourself mate.

#7 Finished Treatment For Opioid Addiction, Have Over Seven Months Clean, And Just Accepted A Job Offer! Toast Me!

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Yes girl!!!! I am BEYOND PROUD OF YOU!! Addiction is f*****g tough, and now look at you!! 7 months!! That’s huge! AND a new job!! It’s a whole new chapter for you! You did it. Your hard work paid off. Seriously, so proud of you!!!

#8 Tomorrow I’m Going To Court Against My Rapist And Could Really Use Some Words Of Encouragement

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I’m so proud of you!!!! My Friend is preparing to go to court against her abuser decades after the abuse. I love you brave ladies! I wish you the best.

#9 16 Yo Finnish Girl Here. Ive Just Come Out As Bisexual To A Couple Of My Friends And They Havent Responded Yet, So I Could Use Some Words Of Encouragement

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Did you hear that? It was the female population of finland going “yes!” when they found out you don’t only fancy guys.

#10 M17, I Work Two Jobs, All My Friends Do Is Laugh At Me, Everyday Someone Tells Me To “Smile” Or “Cheer Up” When They Really Have No Idea. Could Use A Little Happiness Right Now

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17 and you have two jobs? That is some GODLY work ethic you’ve got going on there

#11 13/M, Parents Got A Divorce, Then My Dad Died Of Cancer And I’m Living With My Grandma. I’d Like Some Toast Please

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look, i’m not gonna deny. that’s some heavy stuff man and i’m sorry you’re going through it. know that there’s much more to look forward to in your life and i genuinely hope you get to experience the good that will happen to you. if you’re ever down shoot me a pm, i truly mean this when i say it, hang in there, you’ve got so much to look forward to.

#12 Lost My Hair And My Breasts To Cancer Last Year. Have A Hard Time Feeling Feminine Now. This Week Has Been Particularly Hard And I Feel Really Alone. Would Appreciate A Light Toasting

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You’re beautiful. Really very beautiful.

#13 I Was Raped A Couple Of Months Ago. Don’t Feel Like Living Anymore. Could Really Use A Toast

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Hey! First of all, let me tell you that I know how you feel, since I went through the same twice, even though it was some years ago with 12 and 15. So I absolutely can relate to your resignation, frustration and overall apathy towards taking any action to change anything. The despair and anxiety that comes with it is truly one of the most horrible things I can imagine and I still haven’t overcome it yet. But please believe me if I say, that it’ll get better as time goes on, as long as you try changing things and getting better. A thikg my dad told me once and that helped me a lot: There will be meltdowns. There will be setbacks. There will be days and weeks in which you feel as if nothing is moving forward, that you have made no progress at all, and that is absolutely normal and natural. But don’t ever forget that there isn’t just “feeling great” and “feeling crushed and devastated”, there are hundreds of millions of shades in between. Every step you make towards the “feeling great” side of the spectrum is a success. Even if yiu have a meltdown and go so many steps back, you always have to stand up and keep walking. Even if 99 attempts fail, it’ll be worth every drop of sweat and tear you lost on your journey when the 100th attempt succeeds. It isn’t easy. You won’t be over it in just a few month or years. But it’ll get better, step by step. Even if it takes babysteps. No matter how painful reality is, it is all over once you stop trying to change how things are. there will be despair, nights where you wake up crying, in the middle of a panic attack, days where you feel as if everything you do is a farce and that you are a burden to everyone around you. Again, it is natural that those thoughts come up, but never let them fully corrupt you I don’t know if you are the same as me, but one of the things that made me desparate was the thought that nobody fully understands how I feel. But that is not the point. That is to some degree a good thing. Having someone fully understand you would most likely end in them breaking down as well. It is a GOOD thing to have people who don’t see the whole picture, who bring another perspective to it, who see it maybe from a much more positive side. Don’t focus so much on what others don’t understand than rather what they may understand and wzat other perspectives they bring into the whole situation. You are truly beautiful and have such an amazingly adorable, well proportioned face all while beeing so skilled in your paintings/drawings to such an impressive dwgree (I’m sorry if that comes across creepy, I went through your post history) I’m sure that a smile from you with your face and appereance would look absolutely stunning and gorgeous! I hope you’ll cope with it well and show the world your smile more often. I wish you the best for your future and am sure you’ll overcome this whole incident someday!

#14 Haven’t Taken A Shower In 8 Days(When My Dad/Best Friend Died), Haven’t Gone To The Gym Or Practice, Given Up On My Diet, Only Been To 3 Classes At School And Just An Overall Mess. Could Use Some Motivation For The Coming Week

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You went to three classes! Good for you! Now… Small steps… Take a shower. It really will make you feel better. Let your instructors know what your going through. Now, a toast, here’s to a guy in college that cares enough to go to a gym that had a really great friend his whole life. Here’s to you imagining what your had would say (mine would chuck me on the shoulder and say, boy wash your dirty ass…). Here’s to you doing what we all do every day.

#15 14 Year Old Female, Diagnosed With Aspergers, Adhd, Anxiety, Social Anxiety And Depressive Tendencies. I’ve Been Heavily Anorexic Since I Was 11 And Got Bit By A Dog, I’m Finally Average Weight. Ive Had It Hard The Past Few Weeks And Would Like Some Complications To Boost My Confidence. Thank You

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It’s incredibly impressive that you managed to get back to average weight from being heavily anorexic – it says a lot about your strength as a person, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. And you look really good! You sound like you’ve been dealt a really difficult hand in life, but you’re trying and succeeding in making the best out of it, for which you deserve all the admiration in the world. Don’t hesitate to seek help with your problems, but don’t think that they define you in any way. With the willpower you have, you can achieve anything you want in life. Also, your hair has a really nice colour!

#16 After 16 Years Of Avoidance I Am Finally Dealing With The Fact That I Am A Victim Of Childhood Sexual Abuse, And Rape As An Adult. Currently Feeling Dirty, Worthless, And Hopelessly Depressed

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YOU ARE SO STRONG. This realization takes so much strength, I am so proud of you. Also you are completely gorgeous! Your hair looks so healthy and your eyes are big and bright – absolutely stunning!

#17 Diagnosed With Borderline Personality Disorder And Ptsd From Both Being Raped In 2001. Suffered Severe Verbal And Mental Abuse From 2011-2013 From Roommates. I Gained A Lot Of Weight From Trying To Eat Away My Issues, But Since 2016, I’ve Lost 105 Lbs. Starting To Get My Life Together

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Hey, be proud of what you’re doing ! So amazing trying to get your life in order ! No rush, do it slowly,but surely, build the bases, solid, unbreakable. I hope you are surrounded by love and support, otherwise we are here. One day youll be able to look at yourself with love and kindness cause that’s what you deserve ! Wish you the best.

#18 In The Last 5 Months, I Worked Up The Courage To Leave An Abusive Marriage, Moved 16 Hours Away To Begin Life Anew. I’ve Lost 50 Lbs And Am Beginning To Establish Healthy Habits. Still Struggling With Depression And Cripplingly Low Self Esteem, But I Am Starting To Feel Like One Badass Woman

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Good on you! You will inspire everyone you share your story with. And your smile is beautiful, I hope you see it more and more with your new life.

#19 F/22, Just Found Out My (Now Ex) Boyfriend Was Cheating On Me With His Other Ex-Girlfriend And The Whole Relationship Was A Lie Just To Financially Drain And Manipulate Me, And All Of Our “Friends” Knew About It. Having A Very Hard Time Finding A Positive Outlook On Life Right Now. Pls Be Nice To Me

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Wow, some people can be assholes, but you’re not, and that’s what good about you, not to mention how great you look with your glasses!

#20 I Finally Quit My Toxic Job! Bye Bye Abusive Boss, Low Self-Esteem And Anxiety! I’m So Proud Of Myself Since It Was My Dream Job, Please Toast Me!

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I can see the pure unadulterated joy in your face, well done!

#21 16m Still Having Issues With Self Worth And I Feel Like My Smile Is Really Ugly. But Recently I’ve Never Been Able To Say I Was Happy. I’m Happy I Found People Who Like Me For Me I Think. I Still Have Troubles Deciphering Who Likes Me Or Not. Thanks For Your Kind Words!!!

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You look like the coolest chillest guy ever man I would love to just hang and talk

#22 21m Here. First Time Posting My Face On This Account. I’ve Struggled With Issues Related To Depression, Anxiety, Suicide For Years. I’ve Never Had A Positive Self-Image, But My Heart Is Overflowing With Love. I’m Trying To Convince Myself That I Have Some Intrinsic Worth

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Oh, dude, you’re really attractive. You’ve got a real warm and sunny face that hopefully reflects the kinda person you are! I know it’s really hard to believe anything positive when your brain actively works against you, but I’m so glad you’ve still got all that love in your heart, that’s something to cling onto. I hope things get brighter for you

#23 Just Had A Pretty Bad Fight With My Mom. She Told Me I Was Fat As A Pig And That “All She Wanted Was A Pretty Daughter”. Needless To Say That Nice Words Would Be Appreciated, I’m Feeling Pretty Bad Right Now

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Hard to hear of a mother saying such a thing as she has a pretty daughter already

#24 A Year Ago My BF Of 4 Years Left Me For Another Girl. I’m In A Much Better Place Than I Was, But Knowing The Anniversary Of That Day Is Coming Up And The Fact That They Have A Baby Due In A Month… It’s Wearing On Me A Bit. Plus I’m Having A Bit Of A Quarter-Life Crisis. Could Use Some Toasting!

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You dodged a bullet girl. It’s amazing how life can change so quickly and all of a sudden you’re out of a relationship that wasn’t good for you and you’re on your own path with your own happinesses. Don’t let what someone else did get you down. You’re good and doing well and that’s all there is to it.

#25 I’m In The Middle Of The Worst 4 Months Of My Life. It Feels Like I’m Cursed. Im Sick As Hell For The Fourth Time. No Insurance. I Work With Suicidal Kids So The Sadness Never Ends. This Feels Like Blatant Validation Seeking But I Could Really Use Something Positive

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Nice f****** hair mate

#26 57 Year Old Granny, Got A Job Interview Next Week, Wish Me Luck!

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Your smile looks just like my mothers, its warm and friendly. Show them this exact smile and I’m sure you’re gonna feel all the confidence you need! Keep us posted about the job!

#27 I Overdosed On Klonopin After Being Drugged At A Party. I Stayed In Psychiatric Hospitals Where I Was Diagnosed With Borderline Personality. My Boyfriend Of Four Years Ghosted Me For This For A Week And Proceeded To Break Up With Me Over The Phone While I Was In The Hospital. I Really Need A Win

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You look like a lovely woman with a big heart. I agree with the other poster who said you look angelic. You’re quite beautiful and I love your clear spectacles, they have a lot of character. Your mental illness need not preclude you from a happy, fruitful life. You certainly deserve a loving husband who sticks by you through the thick and thin, and loves you equally at worse as at your best. If you ever want to talk to someone else who suffers mental illness, feel free to message me.

#28 I Realized Today That Everyone In My 8 Member Department At Work Got Catered Lunch For Their Birthday Except Me. Could Use A Pick Me Up

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You are the girl who makes everything move in slow motion when she enters the party in a 90’s movie.

#29 Going Through A Very Bad Patch With My Boyfriend. Really Struggling With Severe Anxiety/Depression And Chronic Health Issues Flaring Up. I’m Just In A Lot Of Emptional/Physical Pain And Could Use Some Toasting

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Ok, hi, you’re beautiful and your hair is awesome. And your make-up, I wish I had those make up skills. Aside from that, know that just getting up in the morning with everything you’re going through is SUCH an accomplishment. This crap is hard – especially chronic illness. You’re doing amazingly – better than most people who would be in your shoes – and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I don’t know anything about your bf, but he’s clueless if he doesn’t understand how lucky he is to have someone as strong as you!

#30 It’s My Birthday [29] And I’m Spending It Alone, And In Pain. Wouldn’t Refuse A Little Love If You’ve Got Any To Spare

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I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time but I promise things will get better. I just turned 29 this year as well and it has been a rough 2 years to say the least. You look like such a genuine loving spirit. You also having gorgeous eyes and such a sweet look about you. I wish you the best and am sending love and good vibes your way pretty lady

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One day, this guy just kind of figured - "I spend most of my time on the internet anyway, why not turn it into a profession?" - and he did! Now he not only gets to browse the latest cat videos and fresh memes every day but also shares them with people all over the world, making sure they stay up to date with everything that's trending on the web. Some things that always pique his interest are old technologies, literature and all sorts of odd vintage goodness. So if you find something that's too bizarre not to share, make sure to hit him up!

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