“Nothing Ages You Like Grief”: 35 Things That Add Years To Your Face

Published 10 months ago

While there is a lot to be said about getting older, getting wiser being one of the most important of them, there are certain things which can age us more than others. 

Recently, Redditors gathered online to share their own thoughts on the subject. Sharing those pesky triggers that take a toll on our psyche and bodies to age us, whether it be a physical or mental experience. So scroll to read the most popular responses received based on peoples own real-life experiences. 

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#1 Stress. Grief. Trauma. Mental Illness. Losing a loved one way before their time at a young age (parent/sibling/close friend).

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#2 Bad genes – like it or not. Some people smoke and drink their faces off and still look vibrant and healthy. Others eat well and exercise and look tired and lifeless

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#3 Fking cancer. Have watched my brother in law age 30 years in a month.

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Ovata Acronicta:

My grandma looked largely the same for as long as I knew her, til the cancer. She aged with increased rapidity the longer it went on, and the last couple weeks were just…her withering away to nothing. I’m not bothered by anatomy generally, skeletons are cool and all, but I don’t want to see a loved one’s skeleton draped loosely in thin flesh ever again.

#4 For people over 30, their hair style. I dont know why some people, especially women, develop a hair style and stick with it the rest of their lives.

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Rose the Cook : Probably because it suits them and is easy to maintain without costly visits to the hairdresser that they can’t afford.

#5 Staying in a relationship or marriage you’re not happy in. It’s soul draining and the instant it’s over, there’s more relief than grieving for the end of it.

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Oh Gosh:

So true, couldn’t agree more. recently ended one of these and didn’t shed a tear, but have felt better than I’ve felt in years. I have tons more energy and smile way more. Even started a new business.

#6 Weight loss sometimes adds way more wrinkles.

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Ovata Acronicta:

Particularly if a person is “puffy” – my dad after he quit alcohol and dropped 60lbs. He’s looking a bit better now honestly, but that significant weight loss coupled with the swelling reduction had him very wrinkly for a bit. He’s not very old so his skin reverted a fair bit and he stays hydrated.

#7 hair loss. Not me personally but I used to work with a guy who I swore was like 35, and he was 19.

Poor kid.

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#8 Grief, nothing ages you like Grief

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#9 Stress.

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Booker (edited): 

For me, stress caused atrial fibrillation, lack of sleep, and high blood pressure. Since I retired and focused on enjoying myself. my atrial fibrillation has markedly decreased (didn’t even know that was possible), I sleep at least 7 hours a night, and my blood pressure has dropped 40 points. Haven’t changed meds, just lifestyles.

#10 Back pain. You can’t move like a young person if your back hurts.

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#11 Being the victim of a crime, and then having to spend the next two years of your life attending monthly hearings until a court date is decided. Watching the legal system not protect you when he violates restraining orders, gets a DUI and visibly deteriorates, coming to court dirtier and more unkempt each time. Losing friends because they like the offender better and just can’t see…

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#12 I just did 4 years in prison and that was f*****g stressful. I feel like I’ve aged a lot

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#13 Putting two spaces after a period

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#14 War. I went from 21 to 31 in 6 months.

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Ditto :

There has never been an answer solved with war and hate, there has never been a winnner in war, yet people still continue, I hate it

#15 Bad plastic surgery.

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#16 Smoking

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#17 Hatred, harboring bad/sour feelings.

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Hakunamawhatnow: Holding a grudge!

#18 Being president. Look at Obama’s hair in 2008 vs 2016!

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Oh Gosh: So true, couldn’t agree more. recently ended one of these and didn’t shed a tear, but have felt better than I’ve felt in years. I have tons more energy and smile way more. Even started a new business.


Platinum blonde hair. I swear it enhances every single line you have in your face even if you’re younger.

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#20 Being homeless. It’ll make you mature right fast it will.

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Good wishes to all who suffer. I always wonder what billionaires do with those extra 57 bedrooms in their 60 bedroom mansions.

#21 Lack of sleep

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#22 Working with the general public. Bartender of 21 years and nothing has aged me more than all y’all idiots.

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Booker (edited):

Teacher: The kids are fantastic, the parents, peers, and administration, not so much. It’s both the best and worst thing that ever happened to me.

#23 I think something not talked about a lot is mindset. Like if someone views themselves as old and shouldn’t do this or that, they’re making aging faster for themselves. Affirmations can help.

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This. At work I see so many people who have embraced old age and the need to be ‘cared for’ for relatively minor illnesses and disabilities and they actually bring forward their own demise by not keeping active and fit

#24 Dehydration. Sun.

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Harley :

If the alphabet went ABCDEFG and then PQRSTUVWXYZ you would totally get dehydrated. You would be missing H to O.

#25 Having a spouse that contributes nothing to your relationship and allows your family to slip further and further into debt without caring that you’re all only a couple of bills away from bankruptcy.

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#26 The way you dress

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Barbara Kelly: Classic styles are always classy, no matter the age of the wearer.

#27 For men, a moustache. If you look back at the 1980s, you have 25-30 year old men look like they’re in their 40s, and the same is happening again, now.

Women – too much makeup

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Peter H:

Facial hair in general. Shaving off one’s mustache/beard can instantly take 10 years off. But I keep mine, because I *like* looking my age. 👨🏼‍🦳

#28 Children

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#29 Chronic pain

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#30 Too dark of a tan (fake or real).

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#31 Starving yourself to lose weight. I look so much older in photos from my 20s than I do now at 45.

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ShaZam Beaubien: My 11th grade teacher told everyone, “fat feels better in bed”. I have forgotten a lot of information in high school, but that stuck with me.🤣

#32 Depression or general unhappiness in life

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#33 (Multiple) tooth loss

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ShaZam Beaubien:

I have lost many teeth and I am so self conscious. I don’t have the money to repair it and I have to make sure I don’t smile too big. I used to love to smile and I miss it.

#34 Troubleshooting printer problems. I swear these devilish machines only exist to trigger me to smithereens.

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Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.

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