20 Men Who Asked Unfiltered Questions About Women That They Were Afraid Of Asking Before
While many schools are still lagging behind in providing proper sex education about male and female bodies, the internet has become the main platform where both genders are coming forward to openly discuss those things. Learning about the functioning of the opposite sex can not only help to respect and accept each other’s differences but also help avoid miscommunications.
Recently, Redditor u/SlenderBacon449 created an informative thread by asking the question “Men of Reddit, what are some questions you’ve always wanted to ask women, but couldn’t because it would seem weird?” The online thread offers lots of enlightening and accurate answers, scroll below to read some of them.
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QUESTION: What to do when a period stain is showing and you seem oblivious to it?
ANSWER 1: Please tell her. I walked around all DAY in front of 10 guys because I was the only woman and they were all too afraid to tell me.
ANSWER 2: Honestly if I was in this situation, I would be so incredibly and pleasantly surprised if a guy not only came to tell me, but came with a solution. Like a hoodie to tie around my waist or a way provide me with some cover to lessen the embarrassment. I would remember that person gratefully forever, no joke.
QUESTION: What are some things that contribute to a dead bedroom in a long term relationship and what might men do to resolve those issues? (Turn you on, make it more enjoyable for you, etc)
I just want everyone to feel sexually desired again.
ANSWER 1: A BIG problem for women is having to take care of the man, house, and responsibilities. If a woman has to nag or mother you, that’s a turn off. If she has to pick up after you, do all the cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping, remind you of plans, remind you of appointments, ask you to do things without you knowing you should do them, or beg you to makes plans for once instead of saying “I don’t care, what do you want to do?” you are heading for dead bedroom. If you treat her like a roommate or employee instead of someone you love, respect and appreciate, dead bedroom. If the only time you show her affection is when you are horny, she will resent you and dead bedroom.
ANSWER 2: Don’t ask her to make you a list of what she wants done to show you’ll “help” around the house. You are a grown-ass man living in a home. Assuming she’s got her hands full with a job or kids and isn’t sitting around waiting for nail polish to dry, open your eyes or do some research into what it takes to make a household run and just start carrying your own weight. If you’re a partner, you’re more than a helper.
QUESTION: Do you randomly get sexually aroused in public for no reason at all like men? And if so, does it die down quickly?
ANSWER 1: Yes to random arousal. It depends on the situation for how fast it dies down. Sometimes, I get randomly horny at work and then just sit there and fantasize about raunchy things. It takes longer to die down that way.
ANSWER 2: It’s not an issue because we don’t get erections, but it’s a bit awkward when my p*ssy has a heartbeat. Our genitalia can get swollen when we’re really aroused, so there is more blood down there, just like more blood in an erect penis. And it throbs, like a heartbeat.
QUESTION: The good Ole classic question. Does size matter?
ANSWER 1: Yes. Too big is a letdown for me. Eliminates more than half of positions, intensity, and how hard I can go. That being said, I would not break up with a wonderful man just because of his d*ck size.
ANSWER 2: No. Different strokes for different folks. The right size is the one where both of you have the best sex.
QUESTION: How uncomfortable is it to wear a tampon? How do you know when you have to change it? Do you get some internal sensation that lets you know when it’s time to replace it? Do you time it? How do you know?
ANSWER 1: “If you feel a tampon after insertion, something is wrong. The rest is trial and error, but you can’t wear a tampon longer than eight hours. Most of my friends make that six hours or less to be safe.”
ANSWER 2: “It’s only uncomfortable if it’s dry; you can tell it’s time to change a tampon by how squishy it feels inside. Sometimes we get it wrong. I’ve thought I needed to change my tampon before, but when I went to tug on the strings it hurt because it was too dry still, so you leave it.”
ANSWER 3: “You also tend to change it if it’s leaking or when you poop.”
QUESTION: Bro how do we become friends with yall. Theres some people I’ve only talked to a few times but I feel like we could have the dopest of friendships. Like no romantic stuff or couple stuff but like we can play smash bros all day
ANSWER 1: You’ll be surprised how much we crave strictly platonic friendship with a guy, because most of the time men end up having ulterior motives. Just treat us like your friend, and
hope you don’t get misunderstood.
ANSWER 2: If she seems hesitant, you can just tell her outright that you’re just looking for friendship. Also, inviting her to a group thing instead of one-on-one can help keep expectations platonic.
QUESTION: I just wanna know how weird/unsafe women feel if a man is walking behind them in some silent area? Cause I have internal panic attacks thinking “omg is the woman ahead of me feeling uncomfortable” I usually just overtake them but sometimes overtaking might feel like a direct attack from behind so there’s that worry too,, what would women prefer men do in such situations ☠️
ANSWER 1: A guy once called out to me, ‘Not following you, I promise, just at a really awkward distance behind.’ I appreciated that. Often our heads go into overdrive when we’re alone, so giving us any kind of signal or message takes things out of potential panic mode. Also giving a lot of space while overtaking, so you’re not right next to her as you pass, is reassuring.
ANSWER 2: One night, I was super drunk walking home and saw a girl ahead of me that seemed worried about my presence. I didn’t know what to do, so I pretended to call my girlfriend on the phone. She slowed the pace, and I was able to overtake her, but I stumbled in a very goofy way. I heard her chuckle behind me. It was a little embarrassing.
ANSWER 3: I was walking home from the bar one night, totally smashed, and I ended up basically following this gal for like four blocks, and it was starting to get weird because it was like 1 a.m., so drunk me just yelled, ‘Hey I’m walking home and kinda smashed, and we seem like we’re going in the same direction, but if you want me to walk in front so you can watch me and feel safer, that’s totally cool.’ She went from peeking over her shoulder to laughing. We ended up walking together for a few blocks, and turned out she lived two buildings away from me.
QUESTION: When you’re platonic friends with a man, do you want to be treated exactly how he treats his male friends (in terms of tone, the inside jokes, and the way time is spent), or is there an expectation to be treated differently as a woman?
ANSWER 1: I just want to be approached naturally, and not much differently than you would approach a male friend. In my personal experience though, I do expect more boundaries when it comes to sex jokes or physical contact. Otherwise, please treat a female friend like any other friend and respect what she says she is comfortable with.
ANSWER 2: I tell men that are struggling with women that they should treat women like they’re there friends gf or something like that. I know plenty of guys that are great friends with a number of women cause in their heads those women are off the table for one reason or another. The second there’s a possibility of dating or sex involved they are incapable of acting like normal humans. It’s crazy to me.
QUESTION: Do you want pockets in clothing?
ANSWER 1: Yes all of them
ANSWER 2: ALL of them. Literally. Pockets in shirts, hoodies, sweaters, ALL pants, multiple pockets in pants, shorts, skirts, dresses, shoes, hell- put them in socks too why not? I. Want. Pockets.
QUESTION: How do you remember that annoying thing we did that one time 6 years ago, why did you just bring it up?
ANSWER: Because it was deeply hurtful to me and you brushed it off or weren’t completely honest with me about it. I know it and I want the whole truth, or I want you to acknowledge my feelings. Some combination of these things probably.
QUESTION: How did you deal with going from looking like a child to getting sexual attention in a rather short period of time? Did you expect it?
ANSWER 1: I first was sexually harassed by strangers at 12 years old, before I knew anything about it. I was a child, and looked it. I don’t mean to be a ‘negative Nancy,’ but it’s very prevalent, and almost everyone I’ve talked to has a similar story. Sometimes even younger.
ANSWER 2: Girls receive sexual attention before they understand what it is. We have to catch up mentally to what is happening. When you’re too young to understand, it can feel nice to get attention, especially as boys tend to get more attention at school up to that point. But as you learn to understand why you’re getting the attention, what those men actually want, and how little you could do to stop them if they decide to just take action, it becomes frightening.
ANSWER 3: The second I turned 18, I had several guys in their late 20s trying to hook up. There is no mental switch that happens between 11:59 and 12:00 on your birthday, and it was really hard to process the fact that it wasn’t a pedophilic situation because in my head, I honestly still felt 14. I wish 18 wasn’t viewed as completely fair game for everyone.
QUESTION: Do your guys’ backs actually hurt if you have big… you know.
ANSWER: Mine does. Went from a C cup to an F cup in 6 months (on hormones for a gynecological condition). My back is so sore now! Properly fitting bras help a lot though.
QUESTION: Do you have “crushes” on random people you encounter that you don’t really see anything developing with? Like someone you see every day but don’t really talk to for whatever reason?
I don’t mean in a creepy way, I mean, like, “my barista is insanely hot and I fantasize about him even though absolutely nothing is going to happen because of [several very important reasons].”
I assume this happens but have always wondered if it’s more common with men.
ANSWER 1: Absolutely! This happened to me back in college when I developed a crush on a classmate and daydreamed of dating him. I also have friends who randomly call me about encounters with attractive strangers.
ANSWER 2: There’s an older handsome guy in my neighborhood who rides a motorcycle. I do not know him; I know nothing about him. I sometimes find myself saying, ‘Hi daddy,’ when he rides by. That’s not even something I say! One day, he had a lady on the back of his bike and I thought, Who’s this bitch? I’m not a jealous person at all. I don’t know where this impulse came from.
QUESTION: Do girls expect to be kissed? Like she’s dropping mad hints that she’s into me but I’m nervous to make a move over fear that it’s not what she wants
ANSWER: If you’re picking up hints but you’re not sure, I’d ask “can I kiss you?” as smoothly as possible and she’ll clarify whether that’s okay or not. If she’s offended by you asking for consent, she’s immature and that’s not on you.
QUESTION: Do you guys like it when men show vulnerability?
ANSWER: YES YES YES! It’s important that we normalize men showing emotions and accepting that it’s okay to be vulnerable.
QUESTION: With periods is it a gush, a small leak, or more of a drip every so often?
ANSWER 1: All three. And sometimes, it’s a clot, which feels like you’re passing a hot slug through your orifice. Periods are fun.
ANSWER 2: To give you a more in-depth answer, it depends on the woman AND the period. Contrary to popular belief, a period is not just a period. They can be easy, hard, heavy, painful, absent, light, etc. And most girls have different ones randomly. So, you’ll usually bleed the same every cycle, but diet, stress, and hormones can alter it.
For most girls, the first two to three days are the heaviest. This means heavy flows, cramping, and gushing — this usually happens when you sit up or stand up after a long time in one position, and so the blood has pooled in the cervix or back of the vaginal canal and comes gushing forward or out. With tampons, you tend not to have this issue as much, if at all. The later days, it’s just a trickle or flow again, but less blood overall.
QUESTION: Is it true a woman actually keeps at least two pairs of granny panties? I was told every woman at least does
ANSWER: I know I have some older ugly underwear for shark week. They aren’t tight on your bloated stomach and if they get stained it doesn’t matter
QUESTION: What kind of common behavior makes a guy seem creepy or unattractive?
ANSWER 1: Asking sexual questions when you’re not very close friends.
ANSWER 2: Throwing too many compliments right off the hop. You can easily turn from a good, nice guy to a creep in less than five seconds.
ANSWER 3: I don’t like when men are way too forward, way too fast. Like, hinting at sex or making sexual jokes at me when I’ve known you for four hours. And acting like they’re entitled to my time, like if I don’t respond within five minutes. The, ‘OK, guess you’re not interested,’ response is major creep/red flag alert.
ANSWER 4: Telling me to smile.
QUESTION: Many women always smell pleasant. Like noticeably pleasant. In comparison, guys either smell bad or neutral. Is this an active choice to always smell good? Do you try to make yourself smell noticeably good all the time?
ANSWER: I think women’s products in general have nicer smells. There’s a popular joke about women’s body products having scents like ‘gentle mist of meadow,’ ‘tropical heavenly paradise,’ and ‘sparkling champagne dreams.’ Meanwhile, men’s are ‘FROST. BLAST. SPORT. OIL CHANGE. GUN.
QUESTION: I know this is going to seem weird but how do you guys control your pee stream? It’s easy as a guy but I’m not too sure it would be for a woman? Idk it’s a stupid question but i would be happy if I got an answer
ANSWER 1: Direction? No. Flow speed? Yes.
ANSWER 2: One of the times I had to pee outside, I did the ‘pre pee’ to make sure I was angled right and all seemed fine. I upped the flow speed, the angle changed massively, and it was like a broken sprinkler. Thankfully, my shoes were waterproof.
ANSWER 3:I think it’s the same pelvic floor muscles that men have. When you contract/relax your muscles to regulate your pee, it’s at the base, right? As in, you cut the flow off at the faucet, not at the end of the hose. Women just have a faucet, but no hose. You, too, can do Kegels to strengthen those muscles.