"Turning Children Into Content": 25 Modern Parenting Trend Fails

Many modern parents are embracing trends rooted in solid principles like empathy, respect, and individualised education. However, observers have raised concerns about how some of these experimental approaches may be shaping behaviour in negative ways. Ideas that began as healthy corrections to strict, authoritarian parenting have, in some cases, tipped into extremes. Kids interrupting constantly, a lack of boundaries, and adults rearranging their entire lives around one child’s moods are far more common than one would anticipate.

The result can be children who can’t tolerate frustration, parents who are scared to say no, and noticeable social skill gaps emerging from highly isolated homeschooling bubbles. When someone online asked, “What is a modern parenting trend that needs to die immediately?” Redditors chimed in with strong opinions. We’ve collected some of the most common criticisms in the gallery below.

#1

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Gentle parenting turning into no parenting like maam that child needs boundaries not a podcast.

#2

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Not vaccinating your kids.

#3

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Gender reveal events – incredibly lame.

#4

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Not reading. Read to your kids. Read for yourself. It matters less than feeding them, but not a lot less.

#5

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“Homeschooling” when you are in absolutely no way qualified to.

#6

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Over-sharing kids’ lives on social media.

Turning children into content before they can consent messes with their privacy, safety, and sense of identity……..and the internet never forgets.

#7

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Letting kids interrupt everything because “they’re expressing themselves”.

#8

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“Unschooling.” And honestly, 90% of home schooling. I get it if a kid is chronically ill physically or mentally. Other than that, get them to a school with an actual curriculum and trained professionals.

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Filming your kid crying and posting it for “awareness” nah that’s just exploitation with a filter.

#10

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This isn’t only a modern trend but dad need to chill out with the “my daughter can’t marry until she’s 40” rhetoric or the “hurt my daughter and I’ll end you” stuff. It’s not tough to threaten a 16 year old and forbidding your daughter to ignore boys until they are not under your control is just going to set them up for unhealthy dating expectations.

I have a 16 year old daughter with a boyfriend. He’s a nice kid and he treats her well. They definitely don’t have a future together but I think he’s a great 1st boyfriend that is really setting the tone of how she should expect to be treated.

#11

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Ridiculous names with ridiculous spelling.

#12

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Not exposing our youths to stuff that makes them uncomfortable.

This leads to socially anxious teens, who get a panic attack from normal everyday interactions. People who are afraid of their own shadow. Youths who cannot trust that you’ll get through the unpleasant experiences. .

#13

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Letting kids anywhere near that AI. I thought cheating was bad enough in my day but is CheatGPT getting outta hand, our next generation is gonna very dumb if this keeps up.

#14

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I’ve noticed this trend on the playground of parents trailing around after their kids, constantly saying “Good job! Ok now be careful! That’s right, foot goes there. Yep, just there OK now be careful! Good job! Go ahead and step right there…” Like LET YOUR KID PLAY. Let them fall, let them try, let them be scared, let them have their own wins. It’s bananas to me.

#15

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Sad beige children. Kids need colors to aid in their mental and cognitive development. Children need a childhood more than beige moms need ugly aesthetic pictures.

#16

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Having every bump in the road being something that means the child has mental health issues or is neurodivergent. I’m so grateful personally that mental health is being recognized more and that we are getting more diagnosis early for things like autism, etc.

However, if your teen daughter won’t get out of bed after a breakup it doesn’t mean she has xyz issue…it means she’s a 16 year old girl going through her first major breakup. Yes she may need a therapist, but what she probably needs more is her mom/friends, ice cream, and movies.

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Nurse here-

Refusing vitamin K for your newborn. I’ve never seen an infant harmed as a result of a vitamin k shot… but I have seen one pass as a result of a brain bleed that could have been prevented with a routine vitamin K injection.

#18

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Emotional enmeshment with your kids. Your kids aren’t your best friends. They are your kids.

#19

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Not teaching neurodivergent kids how to navigate adult life because it’s difficult and feels like forcing them to not be themselves. They are taught that society should accept their differences and that they shouldn’t need to mask or pretend to be anything they aren’t. Which is a nice thought and works in schools that accommodate their disabilities, but then they get thrown out into adult life which actually won’t accept them for who they are and will not accommodate their problems. Learning to cook or pay bills or get to places on time is a lot more difficult when you are neurodivergent, but if you aren’t taught any strategies while growing up, it’s like being thrown into deep water without knowing how to swim. Kids need to be prepared for the world that exists, not the one we wish existed.

#20

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Homeschooling, antivax and all the non sens those tiktok moms influence each others to do.

#21

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Blaming teachers for their kids’ shortfalls.

Crummy teachers do exist, but most of them really are trying. Most teachers are passionate and caring, but the moment a kid’s grade slips parents are way too quick to put the teacher in front of the firing squad.

It’s had an absolutely mind-boggling stupid impact as well. My son is 7 and has ADHD and autism. He’s generally a pretty good kid, but he’s had more than a few bad days at school.

So far both his first and second grade teachers have danced around the issue when reporting bad days to us. Rather than something to the tune of “he was hitting kids at school and getting in their personal space” he was “speaking out with his hands and needed refocusing.” What the heck does that even mean?

I get it. They talk like that cause they have to sugar coat everything against the Karens and Daves of the world. But those parents who refuse to accept that their kids or their own parenting skills might be the problem and just foist blame onto the first person to mention there’s an issue are making teacher’s jobs impossible. It’s forced teachers into this weird, almost patronizing communication mode just so the bad parents don’t blow up on them.

#22

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Babying your kids and not giving them any chores to do. I remember a friend that wanted to stain her deck. She was quoted a lot for that small job. When I told her that her 16 year could do it, she didn’t believe me. Well after a couple of youtube videos and some advice from the hardware store he did it! He was very proud of his work.

Teach your kids how to do stuff. Cleaning, cooking, repairing stuff… It’s not normal that a teenager doesn’t know how to vacuum and mop the floors. They should know how to wash their clothes and take care of the things around the house.