22 People Whose Partners Did Something So Gross The Break Up Was Totally Final
Relationships are not always easy. They require a lot of compromise, understanding and for both parties to put in the effort to make it work. You also have to accept each others idiosyncrasies and respective nuances in how you individually operate in daily life. However, what happens when a partner’s actions are unacceptably gross?
The following stories are almost too yuck to imagine, considering what OP had to go through as their chosen partners acted so grossly that OP had to just up and leave. Read on to find out, what was the breaking point that led to folks splitting in shock and dismay right quick as soon as they could.
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He had berated me for something silly and he was still angry. When we got home, he wanted sex, I wanted to read. He pressured me, I still said no. He got angry and raised his fist to hit me. I just looked at him. He lowered his fist.
I left. I haven’t seen him since. It’s been a decade.
It was two separate incidents, but long story short, one night she got super drunk at my sister-in-law’s house. After spilling a second glass of red wine on my SIL’s white carpet, we opted to move her glass further away from the edge of the table. As soon as we left, she screamed, like full-fledged raged, at me for “not defending her”.
The very next time we were together, she got drunk again and accused me of trying to cheat on her (I’ve never cheated on anyone) and threw her purse at me.
I let things calm down and explained to her that I grew up in a house chock full of domestic violence and that was an absolute line in the sand. And for that reason, I was out.
Found out gf had several fake social media accts she’d use to bully strangers and harass women she knew including my ex wife. Instant dump.
He was on trial for manslaughter and I didn’t know until he was found guilty.
He kept trying to call me from jail
She was jealous of me spending time with my sister and implied our relationship ‘wasn’t normal’. I was so grossed out by the implication. Dumped her the best day.
He showed me, with excitement, a box of things he’d been collecting from me without my knowledge. This included strands of my hair taped up neatly, bobby pins and hair pins I had in from prom, my finger prints and saliva sample that he took out of the trash from our forensics class experiments. He thought this was a romantic gesture or something, but it just made me really realize how creepy and obsessive he is.
He was also very controlling and got jealous/mad at me for hanging out with my sister, or spending time on my laptop or with my dog. And he also admitted to me that he stalked my FB interests to pretend he knew and liked what I liked, researching the games I played and music I listened to so he could bring it up in conversation. Total psycho.
I have told this story about a dozen times on Reddit. The first night I slept at my ex’s apartment. I woke up in the middle of the night to an extremely loud scraping noise. It was inside my ear. A roach had crawled into my ear and was scraping against my ear drums with its legs/antennas/whatever. It was the most awful feeling I’ve ever experienced. I used tweezers to try to get it out and when I pulled them out after a few times, only half the roach came out. Had to go to the ER to get the rest out and get anti-biotics. I had a horrible ear infection for a couple of weeks. The worst part was her saying “it happens to my son all the time”. Like wtf? Found out she had for wrappers and trash under her bed. Clean your f*****g house!!!!
It has literally haunted me and given me ptsd. When I’m sleeping if I hear the slightest noise I jump up and swat uncontrollably around my head/ears. My wife was shocked af the first time I did it when we were dating but since I told her she fully understands lol.
Edit: My top comments are always about my f*****g ex girlfriends, f**k.
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Junior year in highschool I got a girlfriend for the first time. She was popular, beautiful, and out of my league. She took my virginity and I was crazy about her. The more I got to know her on a personal level, the more I believed that she wasn’t that great of a person. Her family was beyond obnoxious but a small price to pay for a horny teenager.
About 6-7 months into the relationship I had dinner with her family at their house. She insisted her older brother tell me this hilarious story. He goes on about how after gym class one day he was left alone with a mentally handicapped student. He tied him up with a volleyball net and left him stranded in the gymnasium screaming. The entire family was howling laughing listening to this. I broke up with her a couple days later.
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She was so rude to my friends. We went out to dinner with them and she constantly made fun of one’s height, something he’s clearly been insecure about. I told her to chill and then she said my hairline is far back but no one notices because I’m tall. I broke up with her the next morning. I felt so bad for my friends but they’re still in my life thankfully.
My mom died just weeks before and I was tired as f**k, exhausted, and in a traumatic phase of grief after a year of cancer treatments and all the fuss of being there for a cancer battle. The woman I was seeing told me I need to get over it and can’t just be alone inside all the time. Never spoke to her again.
Went through my phases of grief and have been a resource to ppl in my life that are going through similar loss since then. Grief takes time or it doesn’t; it’s different for everyone.
I once dated a girl that tortured hamsters. She got arrested when I called police. I didn’t even give her the honor of the text. Just called the cops, gave my testimony in court, and continued with my life
I showered at his place after staying over and I asked for a towel. He gave me one which had literal skin flakes on.
I asked for a clean one. He asked what I meant.
He did not realise that you need to wash towels because “they just have water on them so they clean themselves.”
When I met the parents of my ex bf. His mom was quiet all the time (never saw that woman smile even a little) and hushed around the house like a ghost, her head always down. His father was an a*****e, who was super loud and told anyone what he had to do (while he himself did nothing at all).
So when we left his parents house he looked at me with bright eyes and said “My parents have the perfect marriage. My mom is such a good wife! She never does anything for herself, the perfect woman! All I wish for is that you will be such a good wife to me one day.”
Really, I was just like “Nope. Nope. NOPE!”, got into my car, drove off and never saw him again. :,D
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Asked me had I ever attempted to seduce my stepdad, who had been in my life since I was 8. I was 18 at the time.
I just looked at him in bafflement and horror before asking him had he ever attempted to f**k his adopted sister?
He responded with disgust and yet still couldn’t see that he had asked me something horrific.
Same dude also said he didn’t think anyone was “really bisexual, they’re just cowards who won’t properly come out.”
When I asked him had he forgotten that I’m a bisexual woman, he smiled and said “Nah, I’ll f**k you straight.”
All this said within a MONTH of us getting together.
He’s an ex for a reason.
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He told me **after** surgery that he couldn’t take care of me like we planned, so he drove me home/to my parents place. My parents ended up going on a trip they had planned, hence the need for my bf to help me, leaving me bedridden with my weak grandma mad my grandpa who had dementia. Ended up having to rescue my grandpa which caused significant damage and bleeding to the point I needed a second surgery due to internal bleeding which got so bad as to burst my skin.
Needless to say we aren’t dating anymore.
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This was in highschool in the Netherlands, there was a new girl (April) and she and I hit it off.
About 3 months in she asks me about previous girlfriends, upon hearing one of their names the conversation went like this
Her- “oh the girl from the other class?”
Me- “Yeah yeah, the goth looking girl”
Her- “isn’t she black?”
Her- “Can’t believe you dated a “insert slur” you didn’t have sex with her right? i don’t think I’d be okay with that. I’m glad you changed your mind.”
Left right there and then.
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He sneezed, didnt cover his face. A booger landed on his pants and he ate it. Im gagging just typing this.
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I had gotten to the point in the relationship where he didn’t mind me in the bathroom while he used it. He took a s**t and wiped ONCE. Didn’t even look at the toilet paper, then started pulling his pants up. I immediately asked wtf he was doing and how tf he thought one little wipe was going to do a damn thing, and he was like, “I’ve never needed more than one, look” then wiped again probably expecting nothing to be there.
There was a lot there.
Idk I guess the idea of him just carrying on with his day with s**t regularly caked up in his a*s painted him in a different light for me. Wasn’t ever able to reignite the attraction. Probably should’ve been the person-sized pile of garbage in his room that made me reconsider but I had further limits than most I suppose.
We were visiting NYC in Dec, 2001. The city was still in shock and mourning over 9/11. We had even seen large, makeshift walls at Grand Central Station with hundreds of heartbreaking have-you-seen-me / missing messages for people that had been in the towers and not seen since that day. We were walking around Battery Park, where at the time had barges with remains of the Trade Center buildings. I made a comment in respect for the whole situation. She said (loudly) , “what’s the big f*****g deal? They were just buildings.” That’s when I knew she had no soul.
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My ex used to say, constantly, that she wanted to be inside my skin. It was her way of saying she desired me, but it was f*****g weird and off-putting so I asked her to stop and she couldn’t understand what was so uncomfortable about what she was saying. Pretty soon after that I went on a week long work trip and three days into it she called and told me the whole time I’ve been gone she wanted to cheat on me. Then she asked me if she could see other people while I’m gone. I broke up with her pretty much instantaneously.
I was grossed out by how he viewed me as an object. It made me feel very used to the point that it made me physically ill once. After that, I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore. I never put myself through anything like that after. However, it was a valuable relationship because I learned to respect myself.
Edit: thank you so much for all the support and for sharing your personal struggles with the same problem. Since some commenters are wondering about the details, I’ll post more about it here:
I was young, and he played with my mind. He would pull me away from my friends to have sex with me and wouldn’t stop touching me or being sexual with me in front of everybody. He made me sit on his lap anytime we sat down together. He would try to sext me none stop, he wasn’t interested in what made me a person or getting to know me beyond physically. It made me feel like his own personal walking cum sock. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror. So it wasn’t just comments, it was also physical. However, the comments made me extremely embarrassed and uncomfortable.
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When she doted on my kids as though they were hers/ours but treated HERS like they no longer existed or mattered. MASSIVE MASSIVE red flag.
I was sooooo happy to get out of that relationship but years later I feel badly for her kids and pray everything turned out well for them.