20 Subtle Green Flags That Show A Person Is A Joy To Be Around

We often hear about red flags in relationships and friendships, those little signs that warn us someone might not be the best fit for us. But what about green flags? Those small, oddly specific habits or traits that make you think, “Yes! This is my kind of person.”

#1

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When someone remembers small details you mentioned weeks ago and brings them up casually. Means they’ve genuinely been paying attention!

#2

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I have a friend who I like to call “aggressively inclusive.” One thing I notice he does pretty often is make sure that the quiet one in a group is given the opportunity to speak. And he’s **crazy good** at recognizing when they have something to say. For example, we’ll be in a group discussion, and right after Person A is done speaking, Person B starts to talk right as Quiet Person also opened their mouth to continue the discussion. Aggressively Inclusive Friend will very often, after Person B is done speaking but before the conversation can move on, interject with “Wait real quick, Quiet Person, were you about to say something?” And then Quiet Person is able to speak without feeling like they were interrupting.

I’m not even sure if it’s something he consciously does, or if he just cares about people that much that he instinctively feels the need to help the more socially timid folks find their voice. But he’s done this a LOT, and I know people appreciate it.

#3

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When they are comfortable with animals, and notice their presence. As a pet lover, I consider it a major green flag.

#4

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When they are comfortable being silly or goofy. Thats truly a sign that they are comfortable in their own skin and not trying to be someone they arent.

#5

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Can admit when they’re wrong. Most people I come across either double down or immediately try to make it somebody else’s fault when they mess up. I have a lot of respect for someone who can admit fault.

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If they go along with bits, jokes and quips. The longer we can run it into the ground the better.

#7

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Pacifism behind the wheel. It seems small yet it can tell me so much about a person if they have the ability to brush off other people being a-holes on the road. And I don’t mean just brushing it off and maybe saying your own snide remark inside the safety of your car, but having no desire to engage in road rage at all.

One of my exes would happily lend other drivers grace even if the other driver was in the wrong and it was the biggest breath of fresh air.

My father had road rage so bad I would fear for my life. So it’s a huge green flag for me when people recognize how dangerous and stupid it is.

Edit: grammar.

#8

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Telling me odd science facts in the middle of a normal conversation.

#9

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Curiosity about everything. Specific example that comes to mind. When you mention a song or band they’re not familiar with and they immediately play it without being asked or suggested.

#10

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Dark or self deprecating humor. You’ve gotta be able to laugh at yourself.

#11

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They don’t leave their shopping cart abandoned in the middle of the parking lot like a monster.

#12

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If i make a random noise, they make a random noise back. literally all i ask for 😭 .

#13

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My cat likes them.

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When they’re willing to *do things*. I could just say an observation like “look at this wall it has very slim walking room and looks climbable” and I’m suddenly dragged with them to experiment my theory.

or like “hey what if we go get ice cream rn?” we can’t, we’re in the middle of a shift. “cover for me” and then they’re gone with an impulsive yet thoroughly planned method to bring us ice cream right the second we thought about it.

they remind me that life is open-world, I can do whatever I want. My fav example was when I met a friend and we saw an injured bee. “Aw man, too bad we cant help him,” I said **foolishly**. “Who decided we can’t?” she said and bee was given fruit and happiness until he left on his own terms.

#15

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Unironically says ‘I brought snacks’ before every group hangout.

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In college there were a group of headed to a party. One us dropped whatever trash he was carrying on the sidewalk. She hung back, picked it up and dropped it in the nearest trash receptacle. That was more than 30 years ago, i haven’t been on contact with any of them, but this act really has stuck out all these years.

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Immediately drops to the ground to play with an animal.

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People who stay rational in tense situations.

#19

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When my now-husband and I were first together, I went to stay at his flat overnight. He knew I had a problem with motor control and was terrified of breaking his crockery, so he bought me a special plastic plate and mug. It was so simple and generous that I knew he was someone special. We’ve been married 5 years and I use that plate daily.

#20

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If I meow and they meow back.