20 Women Reveal Why They Chose And Like The Bachelorette Life
"I don’t ever want to build a life with someone and invest and be destroyed again. I hate being alone, but it’s better than used and abused."
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They say if you can't be happy on your own, you won't be happy in a relationship either. The partner should not complete but compliment another. Some research even suggested that staying single is better than being in a bad relationship, even a neutral one. Other than that, studies have shown that singledom has quite a few science-based benefits.
Interested in the reasoning and how the single life is going, Reddit user CrypticWeirdo9105 asked, "Women who stay single purposefully, what's the reason behind it, and how's life been since you made the decision?" Loads of women shared their whys and hows, from hurtful past experiences to feeling more at peace being single. These are pretty interesting. Take a look.
When you are done with this piece, take a look at some of the comics and illustrations single people can relate to here and here.
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Image source: Mistygirl179
It's just way too peaceful being single to easily give up. Not having to worry about another person’s feelings or opinions, knowing the goals I'm working towards cant be derailed by anyone but me… Would take someone very special to make me wanna give that up.
Image source: Cocacolaloco
I guess you could say it’s purposefully because I don’t want to be with just anyone. I’m looking for someone I’m really excited about and compatible with.
Image source: Jazzyidk
I noticed I tend to feel more lonely in a relationship than I do when I’m single. i love too hard and the men I’ve dated don’t reciprocate. It’s like they just don’t care. And it’s hard to find guys that are actually serious about dating me instead of wanting to be f**kbuddies or those “not ready for a relationship” a** dudes that wanna do couple s**t but don’t wanna be one. It’s just frustrating. I’d much rather just enjoy myself and my peace cause men play too much.
Image source: Karleekarl
I got tired of babysitting men, so I'm just focusing on myself, and I'm honestly the happiest I've ever been in my life.
Image source: DaisyBryar
Statistically, single women are happier, healthier, in less danger of physical violence, and live longer. Sounds good to me!
Image source: SleepFlower80
I’ve never been as happy in a relationship as I have when I’m single. I prefer the peace, not having to compromise on anything, the freedom. I can truly focus on my most favourite person ever - me.
Image source: Mystique111Divine
Got out of a relationship last year and it was my first true heartbreak. I’ve always all my life had a crush on someone or was in some kind of situationship that usually ended poorly…Being in my late 20s, I realize that I need to truly take this time to not only focus on loving myself but also working on building my business from the ground up. Also carrying this grief from losing my daughter. I am not in a space to be in a serious relationship with anyone else but myself right now.
Image source: catsarebetter003
I like being single. I like not having to explain any decisions to anyone. Not having to text someone with updates if I'm heading out. Not having to compromise on the dinner I want because they want something else. All the little freedoms.
Plus, I won't settle for mediocrity. I want the person who I choose to date to be perfect for me and to be mature.
Image source: ChaunceTime
I'm comfortable. The last few times I've gotten out of that comfort zone, it's been chaotic. It would take an instant connection for me to willingly disturb the peace I have now.
Image source: grianmharduit
I don’t ever want to build a life with someone and invest and be destroyed again. I hate being alone, but it’s better than used and abused.
Image source: Peiskos40
I LOVE being single. My married and dating years were full of chaos I didn't create. It is so peaceful being single.
Image source: TheTeaYouWant
I’ve been rejected too many times, never had a date, never had a boyfriend, never kissed and I’m still a virgin at 27, I don’t care anymore, I also keep falling in love with people I can’t have, I also lost faith in my dating life because I hate the way I look and how much I weight. I also like being on my own and doing things alone so this is exactly how I like my life.
Image source: malaprop5
I just got back from a 10-day European dream vacation, where I got to do all the things I wanted to do, on my own timetable, and at my own pace. I stayed in castles, slept in, took long walks in random little towns, and had the time of my life.
I am definitely the kind of person who, when I am with someone, will make sure they are having a good time at the expense of my own good time. I want to be a generous and kind person. Being single allows me to actually do the things I want to do without feeling guilty.
In short, it's really great. I have a lot of fun. I genuinely enjoy my own company and my headspace. I have fun hobbies and I have more time to do lots of volunteer work in my town. I have supportive and hilarious friends who lift me up when I'm down. This life took effort to build (relationships, therapy, seeking the right activities) but I'm so happy with where I landed.
Image source: Velvetsandstone
Reason: No matter what they say, every man wants a mother/housewife/cook and life is all about what they want and need. How has life changed since swearing off men? Bliss! Make much more money and have a much happier life.
Image source: Sundae_Gurl
I was married and my husband died when he was just 36 and I was 34. I’ve stayed single for the last four years and enjoy it as much as being married…it’s just different. I doubt I’ll ever marry again unless it was necessary for some reason.
Image source: CatrionaShadowleaf
My mental and emotional state while single is far preferable to that when I am not. My life's been great, I have a condo, two cats, and the whole bed to myself.
Image source: LiberalNutjob420
I want to say it’s purposefully, it’s just that I am well past the point in my life where I will take any s**t from men.
Image source: sachette-dreseag
Well, I work a lot. Ten hours is nothing. I just don't have the energy or motivation to out and have dates and meet people. Dinner - shower- bed. This is my private life and it probably won't change too soon. Better like that. I don't want all this emotional drama.
Image source: Every_Marsupial_2276
I'm waiting until I feel that I've really meet the right person. I feel like I'm just waiting for him, but I'm also not in a rush. I'm extremely happy and peaceful on my own, and it will take a very strong and kind person to change that. I'm not willing to settle this time, and I'm not willing to be with somebody again until I feel comfortable and safe with them, which has not been the trend in previous relationships
Image source: HeadCar5112
I'm currently in a relationship, but I miss my single life every day. I was my best self when I was single. I only had my problems to deal with. I was able to focus solely on my self-improvement and everything about my life was better. My mental health was excellent, skin was clear, and I was at my ideal weight. Now, I just give so much of myself that there is nothing left for me
#1
Image source: Mistygirl179
It's just way too peaceful being single to easily give up. Not having to worry about another person’s feelings or opinions, knowing the goals I'm working towards cant be derailed by anyone but me… Would take someone very special to make me wanna give that up.
#2
Image source: Cocacolaloco
I guess you could say it’s purposefully because I don’t want to be with just anyone. I’m looking for someone I’m really excited about and compatible with.
#3
Image source: Jazzyidk
I noticed I tend to feel more lonely in a relationship than I do when I’m single. i love too hard and the men I’ve dated don’t reciprocate. It’s like they just don’t care. And it’s hard to find guys that are actually serious about dating me instead of wanting to be f**kbuddies or those “not ready for a relationship” a** dudes that wanna do couple s**t but don’t wanna be one. It’s just frustrating. I’d much rather just enjoy myself and my peace cause men play too much.
#4
Image source: Karleekarl
I got tired of babysitting men, so I'm just focusing on myself, and I'm honestly the happiest I've ever been in my life.
#5
Image source: DaisyBryar
Statistically, single women are happier, healthier, in less danger of physical violence, and live longer. Sounds good to me!
#6
Image source: SleepFlower80
I’ve never been as happy in a relationship as I have when I’m single. I prefer the peace, not having to compromise on anything, the freedom. I can truly focus on my most favourite person ever - me.
#7
Image source: Mystique111Divine
Got out of a relationship last year and it was my first true heartbreak. I’ve always all my life had a crush on someone or was in some kind of situationship that usually ended poorly…Being in my late 20s, I realize that I need to truly take this time to not only focus on loving myself but also working on building my business from the ground up. Also carrying this grief from losing my daughter. I am not in a space to be in a serious relationship with anyone else but myself right now.
#8
Image source: catsarebetter003
I like being single. I like not having to explain any decisions to anyone. Not having to text someone with updates if I'm heading out. Not having to compromise on the dinner I want because they want something else. All the little freedoms.
Plus, I won't settle for mediocrity. I want the person who I choose to date to be perfect for me and to be mature.
#9
Image source: ChaunceTime
I'm comfortable. The last few times I've gotten out of that comfort zone, it's been chaotic. It would take an instant connection for me to willingly disturb the peace I have now.
#10
Image source: grianmharduit
I don’t ever want to build a life with someone and invest and be destroyed again. I hate being alone, but it’s better than used and abused.
#11
Image source: Peiskos40
I LOVE being single. My married and dating years were full of chaos I didn't create. It is so peaceful being single.
#12
Image source: TheTeaYouWant
I’ve been rejected too many times, never had a date, never had a boyfriend, never kissed and I’m still a virgin at 27, I don’t care anymore, I also keep falling in love with people I can’t have, I also lost faith in my dating life because I hate the way I look and how much I weight. I also like being on my own and doing things alone so this is exactly how I like my life.
#13
Image source: malaprop5
I just got back from a 10-day European dream vacation, where I got to do all the things I wanted to do, on my own timetable, and at my own pace. I stayed in castles, slept in, took long walks in random little towns, and had the time of my life.
I am definitely the kind of person who, when I am with someone, will make sure they are having a good time at the expense of my own good time. I want to be a generous and kind person. Being single allows me to actually do the things I want to do without feeling guilty.
In short, it's really great. I have a lot of fun. I genuinely enjoy my own company and my headspace. I have fun hobbies and I have more time to do lots of volunteer work in my town. I have supportive and hilarious friends who lift me up when I'm down. This life took effort to build (relationships, therapy, seeking the right activities) but I'm so happy with where I landed.
#14
Image source: Velvetsandstone
Reason: No matter what they say, every man wants a mother/housewife/cook and life is all about what they want and need. How has life changed since swearing off men? Bliss! Make much more money and have a much happier life.
#15
Image source: Sundae_Gurl
I was married and my husband died when he was just 36 and I was 34. I’ve stayed single for the last four years and enjoy it as much as being married…it’s just different. I doubt I’ll ever marry again unless it was necessary for some reason.
#16
Image source: CatrionaShadowleaf
My mental and emotional state while single is far preferable to that when I am not. My life's been great, I have a condo, two cats, and the whole bed to myself.
#17
Image source: LiberalNutjob420
I want to say it’s purposefully, it’s just that I am well past the point in my life where I will take any s**t from men.
#18
Image source: sachette-dreseag
Well, I work a lot. Ten hours is nothing. I just don't have the energy or motivation to out and have dates and meet people. Dinner - shower- bed. This is my private life and it probably won't change too soon. Better like that. I don't want all this emotional drama.
#19
Image source: Every_Marsupial_2276
I'm waiting until I feel that I've really meet the right person. I feel like I'm just waiting for him, but I'm also not in a rush. I'm extremely happy and peaceful on my own, and it will take a very strong and kind person to change that. I'm not willing to settle this time, and I'm not willing to be with somebody again until I feel comfortable and safe with them, which has not been the trend in previous relationships
#20
Image source: HeadCar5112
I'm currently in a relationship, but I miss my single life every day. I was my best self when I was single. I only had my problems to deal with. I was able to focus solely on my self-improvement and everything about my life was better. My mental health was excellent, skin was clear, and I was at my ideal weight. Now, I just give so much of myself that there is nothing left for meDE
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