“Being Intentionally Rude”: 35 Things Women Do To Seem Attractive That Disgust Men Instead

Relationships can be challenging to navigate because each gender tends to make assumptions about the other. While we often stress the importance of communication, there are still many topics where men and women struggle to understand each other’s perspectives. Differences in how they view power, appearance, and emotions shape their behaviours and habits in distinct ways.

Recently, a question surfaced on Reddit asking, “What’s something women think impresses men but actually doesn’t?” Redditors responded with brutally honest observations, sharing how certain behaviours and beauty enhancements that women assume are attractive often fail to impress them.

#1

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There’s a difference between being an independent individual vs simply not taking others into account. I’m glad you’re your own person, absolutely! I don’t want to be responsible for somebody’s sense of self. But, if there’s no room for others in your narrative it’s probably going to be a lonely one.

#2

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Lip fillers are hideous. I’ve no idea why so many women willingly keep doing this to themselves.

#3

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Lip fillers, ditto. They look fake and horrible.
Fake eyelashes: look like caterpillars
Overly long fake nails.
“Designer” anything.

#4

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Lots of make up. Although, as I get older I become more and more convinced that women aren’t actually bothered about impressing men, it’s really other women they want to impress/make jealous!

#5

Implants, too much makeup, acrylic claw like nails.

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#6

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Testing men to see how much they care.

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My buddy dated a girl for a couple of months and one day out of the blue she broke up with him. It was quickly discovered that it was a test because when hit with that news he felt a bit of relief and responded that he understood and wished her well. No hard feelings…on his part. She lost her mind and borderline stalked him for months.

#7

Being difficult. The whole “if you can’t handle me at my worst” nonsense just screams the “best” ain’t worth it. Why would anyone want that?

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#8

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Being “high maintenance.”

I want a relationship not a monthly subscription.

#9

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Speaking in a childlike voice to appear cute. I guess some guys like it but to me it’s creepy.

#10

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Acting hard to get only makes you hard to want.

anon:

To me it always just looks like a lack of interest, and if there’s no interest I’ll stop trying.

UDPviper:

This is coming from a gay man, but I’ve seen it fail for my girl friends a ton.

Playing ‘hard to get.’

Most guys eventually just take it as a lack of interest and move on. Clear communication and showing genuine interest is way more impressive than a guessing game.

#11

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Socials. I don’t care about followers count or anything of that nature. If they brag about that, it’s my cue to leave.

#12

Those hideous painted eyebrows.

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#13

Pretending to be dumb.

2ManyMonitors:

I remember watching my sister, who is extremely intelligent, play dumb for a boy when she was 14 or 15 and I was shocked. He said some dumb fact about Europe, and she said some ditzy comment like, “So Europe is a continent, hehe?” I don’t know why it bothered me so much in the moment, but I laughed at her and called her out, something to the effect of, “Aren’t you in the Geography club and spent last summer in Rome!?”

We all try different approaches when we’re figuring out how to talk to the opposite sex, and she definitely grew up to be an assertive woman who leads with her intelligence.

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#14

Women seem to think men are impressed by how much money they spend on clothes or bags, but most men either don’t notice or don’t care.

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#15

Had a girl on the first date that kept bringing up making money and wanting to be super rich out of context to the point where it got weird. Wanting to be rich is fine, but like it shouldn’t be 75% of your personality.

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#16

Claiming to be an influencer or model. The delusional need for social media acceptance.

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#17

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Putting other women down.

#18

I went on a date with a girl who told me like 5 different stories of her getting into fights. Did not take her yp on a 2nd date.

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#19

Idk but a lot of women seem to post up their dating profiles like they are ads for a job application. Tell me about YOU, don’t tell me what I should be.

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#20

When they say they can’t get along with other women. I always think man there’s no way you’re a stable, honest and interesting person. If you can’t maintain friendships with your own gender I know a few women who think it’s a flex when talking to guys but I just don’t think it’s impressive at all.

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#21

Game playing. Instead, just say what you want. That would be a godsend to men everywhere.

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#22

Being “sassy” or a “brat” …. it’s just being annoying and/or obnoxious.

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#23

“I know my worth” post. Having a healthy self esteem is good and necessary but it doesn’t work that way.

Saying you see yourself as a “Queen” doesn’t means people must treat you as one.

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#24

BBL.

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#25

As a woman I would say acting super jealous or trying to test him with some drama to check if he “cares enough” or is “boyfriend/hubby material”.

In reality, most men won’t only be unimpressed, they will see it as a huge red flag and rightfully so.

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#26

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Not eating when on a date, like if he sees you consuming food you’ll immediately become obese and he will be disgusted, so all you order is a side salad and then steal his fries.

Just get the steak. Men tend to like women with a healthy appetite especially when it carries over to other activities.

#27

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Telling us about how many other dudes are interested in you or what they did for you.

Rachel_Silver:

I dated someone who did that. I think she believed that was how you got a man to spoil you. I also came to the conclusion that she had “traded up” to me from the last guy, because she would compare me to him a lot if she felt I was slacking.
We lasted less than a week.

#28

Maybe it’s just me, But non-stop traveling and endless party pictures don’t impress me at all.

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#29

Taking 2 hours to get ready…

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#30

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Being intentionally rude or sarcastic to seem confident.

#31

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Mar-a-lago face makes me want to throw up.

Smasa224:

I haven’t met any humans of any gender who thinks that looks good. Its like the Amazon guy’s wife, any time her photo pops up, whoever i am near comments how terrible she looks…

Ive heard.. “all the money in the world, and she chooses to look this terrifying “… but never “i wish I could afford to look like that.”

#32

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Heavily edited or overly posed photos.

#33

Everything excessive so it shows. Make-up, cosmetic stuff, especially the ugly lip thing they do. Excessively high heels, small purses. I like my women sort of natural and not fake. I must recognize her without make-up, in jeans and t-shirt as well.

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