25 Dating Red Flags That Are Overlooked Too Often

Published 3 weeks ago

Sometimes, certain behaviours like substance abuse or rudeness toward service staff can serve as warning signs in a relationship, signalling that something might be off. Yet, our minds often convince us to overlook these gut feelings. 

Recently, Redditor Loxomednurmusci posed a question to the platform, asking people to share the major warning signs in dating that often get overlooked. The responses poured in swiftly reminding us that we shouldn’t underestimate the importance of relying on our social skills and intuition in navigating relationships.

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#1 “My ex just left one day out of the blue. I came home and her stuff was gone”.

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Ladies if you hear this, run.
Abusers know they can’t say my ex was crazy nowadays. This is the new version of it. The woman likely had to flee for safety. Her family members likely had to protect her after fleeing. There’s a reason he couldn’t find her after she left.

#2 When they are rude to everyone but you, big red flag

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#3 He hadn’t actually told his ex they were broken up, just that they needed to “take a break.” I should have taken a break too at that point.

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#4 When they s**t talk every ex.

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#5 Constantly cancelling because their entire life is so busy. Like, on Saturday evenings?

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#6 Cruelty to animals.

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#7 They unsettle you.

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There’s a nagging instinct urging you to keep your distance, even though they appear fine on the surface. An internal conflict arises. Don’t dismiss this feeling as a flaw in your character or a result of past traumas. If your intuition is screaming at you to flee, heed its warning no matter how ‘alright’ the other person may seem. Ignoring it will only amplify the persistent unease, making it increasingly challenging to leave the person.

#8 If you are not on the same page with money, this leads to a lot of problems should the relationship get serious

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#9 “All of my exes are b****** or aholes.” What’s the common denominator here? *you*.

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#10 Little care when in the wrong, never showing any accountability for basically anything.

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#11 If his friends are racist, sexist, homophobic, etc, but he claims he’s not like them…. He is exactly like them, he just learned to hide it better.

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#12 If it bothers you now, it will surely bother you later, only way worse. Lol.

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#13 When they can’t attribute their own fault or shortcoming to a single problem they face in life. Today, it’s their parents or boss. Tomorrow it will be you.

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#14 Love is blind. So blind, that people are often willing to overlook small differences in values and/or needs because it might not matter much in the beginning of a relationship and see it as a “necessary compromise and love will conquer all”, but oftentimes those little differences will become huge problems later in the relationship (most often when children becomes part of the equation).

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#15 Little white lies should be one of the higher ones in this list. You see them lie to other people or family without a second thought, even about stupid stuff. Trust me, it only gets bigger and worse as time goes on.

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#16 Insults masked as joking “Oh that’s just his sense of humor..” No. He’s just disguising his honesty with jokes.

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#17 Love bombing! Learn to identify it and then DON’T ignore it. It’s not love – it’s a con.

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#18 When people ignore the fact the other person dont put in effort. It always buffles me how many people jumping through hoops while getting nothing in return…

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#19 Being TOO close to their mom.

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#20 If he has a burner phone, run

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#21 If the other person doesn’t exhibit some level of curiosity about you.

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When there’s chemistry, you want to know more about the other person because you find them interesting. If you find yourself carrying the conversation, trying to learn about the other person but they show no interest in learning about you, then it’s a sure sign that there’s no compatibility. Don’t take it personally—no one can be everyone’s cup of tea and it’s better to know that from the beginning.

#22 Not being polite to service workers.

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#23 Person already being in a relationship. Like, you think this person that’s cheating on their partner will suddenly turn into a person that you can trust is some funny s**t.

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#24 Find out your date has his own photos as phone background.. Just run!

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#25 Their relationship history. Specifically cheating.

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Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.

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