25 Massive Secrets People Will Take To The Grave Before Confessing It To Their Partner
Many people think we need to tell our relationship partner every little thing and that secrets are bad. However, not everyone feels this way, and some even admit there are some secrets they would rather take to the grave than reveal to their SO’s. Rather than being harmless little white lies, this extends to those significant secrets that could cause pain and shame. A couple of recent Reddit discussion touched on this sensitive topic, asking users to anonymously share their most heartbreaking, spicy or even wholesome secrets, and as usual, Redditors did not disappoint.
#1
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I secretly love when he has to travel for work.
Not because I like him being gone, but because those 1-2 days apart gives us both a chance to reset and love each other that much more when he gets back. And the kids listen better when it’s just me.
#2
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My now wife and I had been dating for 4 months when she invited me to join her at a family dinner for her dad’s birthday. Now I had met her parents before, but none of her siblings. When we got to the table I immediately recognized her sister from a one night stand I had the year before. We both just shook hands, said nice to meet you. The first chance her sister and I had a moment alone to speak, we both agreed that it’s best we just not say thing about it.
#3
She broke her brand new laptop’s display and told me to get it repaired if it costs under a hundred bucks because she is in the process of moving and therefore doesn’t have too much money at the moment. I knew from the start it would cost more. She was so sad and disappointed in herself that she broke it just 2 months after buying it. I wanted to do something about it, but i knew she would never let me pay it for her. So i brought it home, got it repaired for 200 and told her the bill was 80. I normally never lie to her so it feels weird, but she is happy so i’m happy.
#4
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I don’t really care about coffee that much, but my wife is a coffee freak. I bought an espresso machine, researched on youtube how to barista for newbs, and started making lattes for my wife everyday since it makes her happy. I can’t really tell the difference between “good coffee” and “bad coffee” so I’m basically just observing my wife’s reactions and following along.
#5
That I used to pretend to have conversations with people on the phone. I just wanted him to think I had more friends than I really did and that I was cool.
God dammit now I sound crazy.
#6
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I lost almost all feelings for him at one point and was considering breaking up with him, but stuck around. Best d**n decision of my life to stick around.
#7
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My sophmore year of college my dad changed his mind about helping me go to school (tuition, books, rent, etc.) 3 days before classes started. I was 19 with a part time job and his solution was to just take the money from my savings which, didn’t even come close to covering it. I used a connection I had to get a job as a cocktail waitress at a strip club for the next year but I also called up an older, married guy who had been pursing me and used him as a sugar daddy to get on my feet. My SO knows I worked as a cocktail waitress but I can never tell him the rest. I’ve never really told anyone because even though I found a way to make it when didn’t have a lot of choices I’m still not proud of it.
#8
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A few years ago I had a full on nervous breakdown and did some really bad s**t.
I didn’t hit rock bottom, I went straight through the f****r and entered the seventh circle of hell.
After the event I ended up have 3 years of one to one and group therapy.
My secret is that none of it worked. I’m as scared, lonely and as f****d up as I was before the breakdown, all the group and one to one therapy has done is taught me to hide it better and keep the distress under control.
Everyone thinks I’m happy and never been better..
#9
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Me wanting alone time was me masking my severe anxiety attacks.
Late response to answer the comments: Firstly: thanks for the support and secondly I’m starting to open up to her. It’s just that I’m a naturally closed off guy and opening up is a slight challenge for me (mentally). Little by little I’m starting to communicate more about myself but I just need to do it more often though.
#10
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She is in Italy living abroad for 3 months, so we are doing LDR.
I am keeping a journal where I write a page every day about her (what I love about her, what I think about her, memories we’ve shared, times I was thinking about her)… She doesn’t know, but she does know there is some surprise that she will get… I haven’t told her anything about it and I’m really excited
It’s really hard to write when we are in an argument (please don’t argue over text, it only makes things worse), but it’s also really good because it makes me more mindful and requires me to change my perspective of situations constantly.
I love her.
#11
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It bugs me that our dog prefers her. If it’s the two of us in the lounge, she’ll always go lay her head on my girlfriends lap. I bet she keeps snacks in her trousers. That’s got to be it.
#12
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That dress really *does* make her look fat.
#13
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That I served in the army for 5 yrs, and fought in the 1st Iraq war. But to be fair I don’t tell anybody about it. I just keep it to myself.
#14
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Man, I loved that woman for a long a*s time before I had the nerve to tell her…
#15
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I would never eat my ex girlfriend’s mother’s cooking due to her poor hygiene. I found hair of hers in my food multiple times, saw her pet their cat then proceed to touch the food she was making, and severed me spaghetti with her bare hands. Always told my ex girlfriend that I wasn’t hungry or already ate.
#16
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I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years now.
I’m 99% sure I’m transgender, but I want to have children with her and be with her for the rest of my life.
I’m not sure if I’ll ever tell her because I don’t know if we would be together after that.
I love her to death and would do absolutely anything to get her where she wants to be in her life.
What if I come out to her and she leaves me?
Its not something I like to think about.
A less serious secret also; I met a girl online a long time ago online, I went on to meet her in person and stay at her house when I was in grade 9.
We’re great friends, real close and everything. I told her I was a year older then I actually am to seem cooler, She still doesn’t know.
#17
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The only secret is a surprise 2-week trip to the UK I’m planning for the two of us – something my SO has dreamed of doing for a long time.
#18
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The number of sexual partners I’ve had.
#19
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That I’ve turned a closet in the hallway into a shoe closet because she has wanted one for a very long time. When she comes back home in a couple of days I hope she loves it.
#20
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The baby’s actually asking for her ball when she goes “papa”.
#21
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My SO has a hobby that is slowly turning into a side gig. I hired an artist to create a logo for him and am making him a big sign for his work space and some stickers to do with as he pleases. I’m going to surprise him with it in June for our anniversary and I’ve had to keep it to myself since December and it’s eating me alive!! Longest 6 months ever!
#22
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My sexuality. I’ve slept with quite a few guys and there’s no chance I’d ever tell a female partner. It’s funny, because a female partner having slept with another woman prior to your relationship, is a turn on for most men, or at least not a concern. Yet, the woman knowing her man’s slept with another man, seems to cause concern, and be a turn off.
#23
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My former partner preassured me into being a camgirl because my wage was not making ends meet. He didn’t work. There is most likely p**n of me on the internet I hated producing. I was 18. I’m glad I’m outta there.
I feel deeply ashamed and would never tell my current partner.
#24
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I dated a man for years who lied to me about about his parents being dead. He made up an elaborate tragic story about how they both died together in a car accident. Found out later they were both very much alive. Oh, and he was also married!
#25
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That I know when she makes fun of me that she’s joking around. But sometimes it actually really hurts my feelings.
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